You're suggesting the same kind of setup as I did; so my thinking wasn't all wrong then. The MCP4725 and DAC101C085 seems pretty equal except that the former one is half the price.
Sorry, my bad. I read your post, then had it sit in my mind for some time and later hit reply without reading the post again :/
One other thing that I thought about right now: A lot of the 0-10V signal inputs on dimmer circuits are built as constant current sources, so you can usually just connect a potentiometer and you’re good to go. Maybe try that as you can spare all the expense for a DAC + op-amp (feels like a bit of over-engineering - right?).
If it works, you can simply use a digital potentiometer with I2C.
Edit: The datasheet (p5 bottom left column) you posted confirms this, you simply need a 100kOhm pot.
Here is a selection of digital pots.