Well, you have R5 on pin 6, where I have it on pin 4. I guess in my circuit it doesn't matter, but when you add R6 it changes things a bit. These resistors just limit the current going through the opto, so I don't think it matters if it's on pin 6 or pin 4, but maybe I'm wrong about that.
The other difference is I have pin 6 connected to neutral, you've got it going to the MT2 (via R5). So if you had the load connected to pin 1 on the connector and 120 hot to pin 2, then there would be a voltage drop across the load, so the voltage seen by pin 6 would be less in your circuit. But wouldn't you basically have a voltage divider, something like: Neutral---Load---R5---120 VAC. The resistance of the load is going to be pretty small (heating coils in my case), so I can see how with your circuit the voltage going to the opto is less, but it doesn't seem to me it would be a huge difference. You also have the snubber circuit, but I have a resistive load, so I don't think I need that. So, I see some differences, but I don't really understand to root cause of my problem - though I'm trying hard too.