Normally, to check if a 230v circuit is live, I hold one of the dmm probes by the metal, and probe with the other probe. Times like that I am not worried aboutv exact reading, just that it is live. (With my body impedance, and the high impedance of the dmm, I do not feel a thing, even though the dmm shows up to 190v
DId that today again, but my dmm was on ohms. Ouch. But I am used to it.