Would it be bad if I bought a big ESD mat and put the plastic storage and steel toolbox on the mat? Or would it be better to get a smaller mat?
Not at all. Leaving such items off of the matting and using a smaller mat is just less expensive.
Personally, I'd recommend getting such items off of the desk surface entirely (physical desktop real estate is too precious). This is what shelves are good for.
If the bench has an ESD mat, hooked up to electrical ground, is there any danger to anyone in the room as they interact with the mat? If I’m grounded, is there anything I need to be careful about? Since the room is a shared space, is there any danger for anyone else who isn’t grounded (for example, if they lean against the bench while no work is happening?) If anyone puts down or picks up any non-ESD-sensitive items (for example, a hammer), is there any danger related to the mat being grounded?
Resistance in the ground path slows the discharge rate, so if you or someone else in the room comes up that's carrying a static charge and touches the mat or wrist strap, it will reduce the intensity of the shock sensation, or possibly even eliminate it. Which is why you want to "strap in" before touching anything.
As always, be careful as to what you're making contact with. A proper bench mat and wrist strap may reduce the intensity of the shock, but that doesn't mean it won't hurt like hell when you make a mistake (mains, but more commonly IME, are charged capacitors). So use due caution around either (discharge caps when possible). If you're not working on anything, shut the power down (eliminates the potential for shock; this includes covering up or discharging capacitors). As long as any tool carrying a static charge is placed on the mat first and/or picked up by a grounded operator (conductive part of tool), it's charge will be conducted to ground without being able to cause any damage to sensitive parts.
Now as per your location... If you go into your user profile and enter in your country, it's flag will display beneath your userID. Makes things easier for everyone (you don't get the endless "where are you located" questions, and others can post relevant links).
For example, you indicate the standard sizing is a bit of an issue. But if you're in the US or CAN, there's a
seller on eBay that will do custom sizes if you contact him (seller is located in Canada). Pricing is decent as well, though you can do better on the right sale or closeout (i.e.
all-spec.com).
actually you shouldn't find a resistor in the grounding lead of an esd mat - the mat itself has such high resistance that adding 1M would be a negligible increase. only ESD wristbands have a resistor in their grounding leads.
FWIW, most kits come with mat ground wires that do contain 1M resistors (some have a plastic block w/ 2 banana jacks for wrist straps, others don't but both types contain the 1M resistor). Easiest way to spot them is by color (wire = black, then it's sporting a 1M resistor in the path). Green w/ yellow stripe = no resistor.
Keep in mind, that the top dissipative layer is highly resistive (typically in the 10^8 Ohm range), while the bottom layer is conductive (typically 10^5 Ohm). And the top layer bleeds to the bottom layer, which is then conducted to ground through that cable. Now keep in mind, that if you end up paralleling the wrist strap at 1M to the conductive layer of that mat at 20k (quick measurement on one of mine), you've only got ~19.6k between you and safety earth.
Don't know about you, but I'd rather have ~500k in that instance by using 1M resistors on the mat as well as the wrist strap.