I have found with these sorts of "breaker tracer," "wire finder," or "tone and probe" sets that unfortunately there isn't really an easy way to unambiguously find the signal, as it will often get inductively coupled onto other adjacent lines besides also being hard to pinpoint physically.
Hooking the "toner" (transmitter) up across two conductors (e.g. Line and Neutral) in a cable, rather than one conductor and ground, to some extent reduces the spill although it will also reduce the signal you see inductively with the "probe" (receiver). Then you can generally insert the probe right up and between the two wires of the cable, for example where they enter the panel, to get the most direct reading.
I apologize if you are already doing all of the above, and don't mean to discourage you from trying to do other interesting things electrically to try and solve the problem. It just seems to me that given spill/inductive coupling onto other wires, the problem is one of relative measurement anyways, and the inductive probe already contains a working receiver, filter, and signal strength meter. It's just the method of coupling to the inductive probe that might need some work. For example if you want to probe a breaker lug directly, you could do so (carefully) with a mostly insulated piece of wire wrapped around the probe's receiver?