That's what I thought. But both Wikipedia and my tutor disagrees: http://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Transconductance
My definition above agrees with the Wikipedia link that you give.
Remember that the collector current is given approximately by the diode equation
I0*(exp(VBE/mVT)-1)
to get the small signal transconductance we need to differentiate (I didn't make that clear in my first post but have corrected it now)
dIC/dVBE = (I0/mVT)*exp(VBE/mVT) which is approximately IC/mVT as the -1 term is generally much smaller than the exponential.
So yes your tutor is correct approximately and ignoring the ideality factor m and the fact that the base current should come off this as well.
The VT term comes in as it gives the slope of the curve which determines the transconductance.
Perhaps the best way of looking at this is not to think about IC influencing the transconductance, instead IC gives the corresponding VBE value (like reading a point on a curve by using the Y co-ordinate instead of the X co-ordinate) then VT comes into it because it affects the whole shape of the curve. The transconductance is just the slope at that point.
If it was simply the curve y = x^2 and I asked you what the slope was at y=4 you could read across and see that this was x=2 and the slope was 2x = 4. The value of y doesn't determine the slope in a logical way it just determines the point on the curve and each point has a different slope.