how do I take properly take care of fet speed edges?
'carefully'
Slow them down with resistors, but not so much that unlucky circumstances (high load, edge-case FET) is at risk from thermal damage as it turns on or off. (I seem to recall you were doing relay-style switching, so is should just be individual edges you care about, rather than sustained heat from PWM turning it on and off all the time).
You can also use current limiting, but that's harder.
You might also want to put some capacitance in parallel with the gate, since you can't really trust the gate capacitance to be the same from transistor to transistor, batch to batch.
Or/and you could also put a bit of resistance under the Source, to limit the current the load can take, especially at switch-on. Have a search for source degeneration.