One rub for the transformer isolation method is, you want a part with particularly high inductance (low magnetizing current) and low winding resistance. Leakage should be low as well.
What's so hard about that? Essentially all the small (< 10 VA?) transformers are bank wound construction, which have very high leakage; they're also made with high resistance. This allows them to have shitty regulation (20% for the better ones) and short circuit tolerance (impedance limited, class 2 safety or whatever). The efficiency is poor, but in the small size, it doesn't matter much.
A proper potential transformer, if you can find one, has all these characteristics in the right range, and rated in the datasheet. But expect to pay for it.
PTs and CTs are most common for industrial application, so you may even have a hard time finding one small enough. CTs at least are useful enough on their own to be available for smaller applications at reasonable prices (under $5 for something like the present application, I think).
When you measure the line with resistors, you do need a sufficient voltage capacity, yes. This can be afforded by stacking several resistors in series, or using higher power rated parts. I'd recommend using two 0.5W or 1W through-hole parts (per side), or three or more SMT chip resistors (preferably 1206, but 0805 have pretty much the same voltage rating).
Curiously, resistors down to 0603 are available with surprising voltage ratings (up to 10kV). But they can only be used in potted assemblies, as you might guess.
Tim