This topic is a bit iffy if you learn it from scratch without proper structure. What's your learning background? Judging from your posting history you're at uni?
In my experience it is a good idea to be confident in using complex numbers and having a proper introduction to the names (and their meaning) of complex electric variables.
Let me start by saying that your book is using magnitudes when it refers to XL. (i.e. they refer to the absolute value of jXL). And that I am assuming your book is using a visual approach since you mention diagrams with angles (probably phasors).
Susceptance is not simply the reciprocal of reactance, this is only for pure reactances (i.e. no ohmic resistance involved). It's not necessarily wrong to say B = -1/X, but it is important to remember where the minus actually comes from and that R was equal to zero in this case. I'm sure that the book mentions this before they start explaining the other stuff.
Maybe some intuition will help to grasp the concepts first:
1. series circuits have the same current in all components
2. parallel circuits have the same voltage across them
3. voltage lags current in phase for the capacitor, current lags voltage in phase for the inductor
The first two should be clear.
The third I always liked to remember by thinking of how a capacitor lets current flow before the voltage builds up while it charges (and then becomes an open circuit when fully charged). For the inductor it's the opposite. Bet there's a lot of other ways to remember it.
ad 1) Series circuits, same current. It's the same current in both phase and magnitude.
ad 2) Parrallel circuit, same voltage. It is the same magnitude and phase.
Now you ask, what about the resistance/reactance?
Reactance (impedance and all those other names) depend on both current and voltage (ohms law) and since current and voltage are not in phase for a capacitor or inductor it means that the reactance isn't in phase either (it either lags or leads the pure ohmic resistance by -90 or +90 degrees).
The angle between pure ohmic resistance and reactance is also either -90 or +90 degrees, just like between the voltage and current over the inductor or capacitor.
To draw the relationship of XL and R in a parallel circuit, you start with the common variable - the voltage across them: Us ("U supply" or whatever). This voltage is your normal position.
* Draw an arrow that represents this voltage in any direction or angle you want, it doesn't matter.
* Next, the current in the resistor will be some magnitude in the same direction as the normal posistion. Draw an arrow with the same starting point as the common voltage into the same direction as the voltage (zero degrees between them).
* Further, the current through the inductor will lag this voltage, so draw an arrow with some other magnitude from the same starting point as the current through the resistor at an angle of 90 degrees lagging behind the voltage (the system is turning counter-clockwise).
You can now geometrically add the two currents IL and IR to get the total current Is ("I supply").
Since admittance Y is equal to 1/Z and Z = Us/Is, you know that G = 1/R = IR/Us for a pure resistive element and BL = 1/XL = IL/Us for a purly reactive element, so go ahead and divide those current arrows you drew above by the voltage across them. If you do that, all that happens is that you change the name of the arrows from Is to Is/Us = Y, from IR to IR/Us = G and from IL to IL/Us = B. The angles between the arrows didn't change (only the lenghts but it doesn't matter for the drawing)
The picture you now have is a nice representation of the phasors of your system. The 90 degree angles are representing the j and the length of the arrows are the magnitudes of the real and imaginary part of the complex parallel admittance.