Those (Fotek) ebay SSRs are not meeting even half of their specs, complete junk, often with an inferior insulation too. At that price I would just but a triac and an optocoupler which for the same price (if not cheaper) would do the job reliably. Also ebay is full of counterfeit big brand SSRs.
Do note that his 40A rating is an inrush rating (short term load burst). The max resistive load rating on those 40A parts may only be 10 or 20A.
If you derate 3X or 5X from there, you really don't have much left.
No, that is BS rating (if for fotek). Nothing to do with actual parameters. For normal normal SSRs this is continuous raring (with a heatsink).
This particular Satronix ssr might do the job. At least it have some actual (though Indian) manufacturer (if it is genuine).