Your title and post got my attention (also found the above post very interesting). I must admit that I'm not familiar with psychoacoustics, but I did and do listen to music using what some would consider audiophile equipment, and have listened to a variety of mid to high-end stuff. Oh, I used to be able to hear 20kHz (or even higher?), now it's at 16kHz or so. I can still make out lots of noises, high pitched sounds, etc. that most people including youngsters don't hear or notice.
To put it simple, for me the difference between enjoyable audio equipment to let's say less enjoyable hifi stuff is in the extent to which it engages me. If I get tired after listening to familiar music over some time it means something in the equipment chain is not up to the task. If the music keeps engaging me then the audio equipment is worth closer examination. Selecting the right auditioning music also helps. Tomshardware gave an excellent example on how NOT to do hifi auditioning - see
http://www.tomshardware.com/reviews/high-end-pc-audio,3733.html. According to their editor spending more than $2 in a DAC is a waste of money
. If you look at their method there is - in my opinion - no way they can tell apart the (near) true-to-life reproduction of music versus the average rendering of digitized music. (The reasons why I think so are: 1. TH uses mostly studio multi-track recordings that are impossible to relate to any real concert experience; 2. The auditioning periods are much too short, you can't make out much if any difference when listening to a 3 minute track on DAC1, then on DAC2, etc.; 3. They were trying to identify differences in what they hear, whereas I would be looking for what's missing; 4. It hasn't been mentioned, nor is there any reason to assume, that TH chose any music recorded in a concert hall that the auditioners were familiar with. When I audition audio equipment I bring with me at least one or two recordings where I am familiar with the recording venue and specific acoustic properties; 5. TH used stereo headphones which, as good as they are, can't really reproduce a natural sound stage.)
One reason why not-so-good audio equipment reproduces music in a way that exhausts me is the effort I'm forced to make to locate instruments/players on stage.
I can't tell if this has to do with the ASMR you mentioned, but I certainly can provide plenty of examples where even a "small" change in the audio setup (for example a different interconnect) can make a noticeable difference to me, even though it may be on the level of how I feel or how I enjoy the music, and not on any identifiable difference in the sound. In many cases I would need to listen to music for a prolonged time to become aware of it, and I doubt if the difference I hear (or better "feel") could be easily identified by test equipment. Let's put it this way, there are few if any specs that audio equipment producers publish that have any bearing on the quality of the music reproduction - even the price tag doesn't give an indication (though good stuff tends to cost more).
All my audio equipment and cables have been selected by me on the basis of purely subjective criteria: the level of pleasure it gives me when listening to music. In short, yes, I think there is a lot more to music and music reproduction than what many want to make us believe. ASMR could perhaps help to explain this.