Considering the potential for aggressive discussion, I will only make one post on this subject - however, I
do make it because of the seriousness of that subject.
It is founded on the admission:
I'm banned as well. I'm not sure why, probably some asinine comment I posted while drunk, as practically everyone does on a bad day.
... and
everything which is revealed in it.
Not everyone who has a bad day turns to their drug of choice to hide from their woes. (and, yes, argue all you like, but alcohol is a drug no matter how loud or long you may want to complain.) While I am not going to crusade the evils of such indulgence, I do draw the line in regards to how far the effects extend. Keep it within the bounds of your private space and I will not bother you - but bring it into the world where the rest of us live and then you and I may have a problem...
Nevertheless, the fact is that someone on the internet slapped you on the wrist - very lightly, I may add - and you came here for what can only be interpreted as wanting to have you bruised ego propped up by our support. Here is where my problem with you begins.......
While I concede that people do silly things when "under the influence" I can understand that as the
reason - but I cannot accept that as an
excuse. If you do something silly and are embarrassed by it, then I hope you learn from it - but if you choose to try and
excuse yourself from the responsibility of that silliness
because you were drunk, then you represent a risk to society. Some of those risks are minor - such as falling asleep in the back of a car - others are less so - like falling asleep in the driver's seat.
Here is where I have the biggest problem - and it comes from a real-life, personal experience...
Some years ago I knew a young couple who were the sort of people you would be happy to know. They were kind, helpful and had a bright future ahead of them. That was until they were travelling along a motorway here in Sydney one night. A drunk had got behind the wheel and ended up travelling down an
exit ramp and entered the motorway going the wrong way. This drunk then collided head on with the couple. They both died and the drunk survived.
From what followed, it was clear the drunk wanted to claim his drunkenness as an excuse for his actions... just like you have.
What underlines this as a real problem is the fact that you feel the need to include "practically everyone" in your search for support. This is bullshit. I've had my share of "bad days". Burying a 4 week old son was one - but I never reached for a bottle to hide in. The truth is, in my experience, the vast majority of people who have "bad days" don't get drunk. They go for a run, spend time with their family, lose themselves in a hobby or do some gardening. There are a lot of options that don't involve drunkenness - but I understand there are some that head straight for the bottle.
If there is a background where PTSD or some other major problem has become an issue, then seek help. It is not fair on everyone else around you to have to put up with the consequences if you don't.
I can deal with a great many things that people do - when they accept the responsibility that goes with it, but seeking to hide behind the bottle is, in my book, beyond contempt.
If anyone feels that I have made accusations against someone about actions that have never been perpetrated by that person, then you have missed my point.
They may have never been involved in such things ... but the same attitude as theirs
has.
As a post script to the above, I have never seen the sense in getting drunk. I have seen others who have written themselves off and one I saw in the street who was, quite literally, legless. Even with a friend trying to help and a building to lean on, this guy simply could not get his legs to stay under his torso. Why??? Another time I had a 23 y.o. working for me and somehow the discussion got onto drinking. He could simply not believe that I had never been "off my face". It was a concept that was completely outside his comprehension. When I asked him why
would you, his response was a very convincing ... "B.. B... Because!"
For those who may think I am strange, I have had the odd drink - but I have never really found the taste of any of it to my liking. As a result, if I go out for "drinks" with some co-workers, my drink of choice is a lemon squash. The first time I did this in one employ, my boss was getting a round and when he asked my what I was having, I said "a lemon squash". His face screwed up as if I had just shoved a dog turd in his face - but I said "I'm here to enjoy a drink with the team. I will enjoy a lemon squash." He got used to the idea pretty quickly.
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