The waveform on pin 6 of the 3842 looks nice and square, so I'm happy the IC output is okay. Similarly the voltage on pin 7 is stable and free of ripple, so I'm fairly sure it's not being excessively loaded down either.
The datasheet for the original MOSFET states VGS(th) is 2.0(min) to 4.0(max) - VDS=VGS, IDS=250uA. Replacement MOSFET values are exactly the same.
Similarly for input capacitance, original is 1800pF (f=1.0MHz) replacement is 1300pF (f=1.0MHz).
I'm beginning to form the opinion that perhaps the AUX winding is damaged somehow, and can barely supply enough voltage to run the 3842 properly .. pin 7 is 11.4 volts, and factoring a 0.6v drop for the internal switching transistor doesn't leave much headroom to drive the MOSFET.
Datasheet for replacement MOSFET is attached...