OK! I'm back after the weekend, I wasn't AWOL just a busy weekend, and with nothing to report, I didn't see the need to post... I have every bit of enthusiasm to get this speaker working once again, and appreciate everyone's keenness to help out too, very much appreciated. I hope all you guys had a good weekend too...
The latest:
As suggested, I put a load resistor between the ground and output of the regulator... 10K was the nearest 500mW resistor I have in stock, if 1K is preferable, you'll have to wait until I can source one, as I'd imagine a 250mW would smoke, although I can try if you think it would make a difference. Anyway, now I'm down to -20V out of the regulator, but the input side remains at -36V (not -20V I'm getting on the other unit).
Here's a few pics of the filter & digital board. - Ignore the trimmer in one of the pics, it hasn't fallen out of anywhere, I just used it to prop the board level so I don't get any weird depth of field issues...