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Applying a temperature meter on the conical tip, I measure highest temperature in the bottom or middle of the cone, and about 100C difference to the tiny tip. This became way more pronounced when I switched to lead free solder that melts at much higher temperatures, it would only melt in the middle not at the tip, and further more, when soldering the melted lead blob would be "pulled" upwards to the middle of the tip where it was hotter. The tip size is about 20mm length (the height of the cone) with about 8mm being the "business" end where solder can melt. It seems the highest temperature is near the base of the cone than the tip.
I also think there is a large delay and difference between tip temperature and element temperature .
Any ideas ?