I use CD4060B, and i will try to do the RC oscilator but i have no idea what values to use (looked on a eguasion and should het 1-7hz with 6M8 and 4700uf cap, i have these and should "work" if my math is correct)
Time t = 2 n / f osc = Seconds
n is the selected Q output number
2 n = Q output number = 2 x Q no times Eg. Q3 output = 2x2x2 = 8
f osc = 1 / 2.5 (R1xC1) = in Hertz
32768 / (1 / 2,5 * (6800000 * 0,0068)) = 1,77....... seconds

is the result actualy somewhere close reality becouse i have 0 point of refence when it comes to this (personally i would say it would take hours to charg e but idk)
and the 22pf is issue to me, since i would have to order the parts (shipping in czech is like 8€ for parts that cost 0.04 each) and i have tryed 16pf with no luck (worked "better" without one) and sice i have now only 1 crystal with the right frequency that may or may not be working i will probably troubleshoot on RC circuit and if even that won't work i will just say screw this and do temporarry 555 timer instead (since i will be ordering parts in like a month or so and will revisit it then (with the crystal) and with the RC i will try it untill i break the 4060s i have (2 of them, since that is the only thing i can't rly replace until i order more)
TY all for the ideas and explaining
EDIT: soo i have decided to test the crystal and this circuit on breadboard, with the 33pf caps, guess what it bloddy works

and boards don't, is there a possibilitty that the flux/rosin i used (the uncleaned residue) "shorts" the crystal pins (well shorts relative to the 6M8 since the tracks are close to each other) again the circuit works on breadboard which makes me wonder what could be the issue