I didn't know about -B option, regardless I still get the same response even with -B 300..
if the RESETDISABLE fuse is set, then you need high voltage programmer, this thread might give some tips... https://www.avrfreaks.net/forum/reset-disable-preventing-serial-programming with this anomaly, i'll bring up my ISP Mk2 programmer instead of avrdude. your general purpose programmer TL866A + Func Gen may give some more light if you dont have Mk2.. set ISP freq to much slower KHz while clock is in MHz range. disconnect everything from the MCU except programmer, fg (clock) and power supply. ymmv.
I have a ISP Mk2 as well. I think it only works with atmel studio tho, I need to change the driver for it or flash it with another firmware.
I used to have the mk2 for the atmel studio (university stuff) and the usbtiny for avrdude (home stuff) and I ended up only using the usbtiny for everything.
I can find my MK2 if needed no problem.
How do I change the ISP frequency of TL866, I don't see any option for it.