Hi,
You can follow manufacturer guidelines (posted in an earlier comment) regarding connections.
You're over-thinking this unfortunately with assumptions with no clear reason why you think every connector on the mat has to be used (it doesn't). Just buy the equipment from a reputable seller (TME, Digikey, Conrad, Eleshop etc) and no need to stress out about it, you're spending more time deciding, than the end equipment cost.
A friend required ESD kit last week, we took one look at Amazon, decided we were not sure of anything there, and simply ordered from a specialist supplier ("Somerset Solders" in this case, but there will be decent suppliers in most countries as mentioned) - the cost was still low. Less than 100 euro for the premium quality stuff, anti-allergy etc., inclusive of taxes and shipping, got her everything she currently needed, all is safe with the required resistances with no need for the user to do anything extra, and it is known that it will work for the next decade, since that's almost how long I have owned that particular mat too, and it's still functioning.
Job done, all decided and ordered in 10 minutes, and that's how long it will take to put it all together when it arrives.