Snubbers have a lot of math for their values, too much because you don't always know all the inductance values.
In a perfect world one would use a scope for tuning the values, but here that's a bit dangerous with the high mains voltages.
Another way, it's easiest to use common, standard values like 0.1uF and 100 ohms 1/2W. I would use 47-100nF X-cap and a flameproof/fusible 1/2W resistor because there is no fuse if the cap fails shorted. A heater has much less inductance than a motor so a smaller than usual capacitor is fine.
Quencharc are convenient, integrated but expensive, the datasheet has some advice.
You have 3-phase power 230/400 so 400VAC phase-phase? Each contact would see 400VAC? Look at Epcos/TDK B32912A5473 or Kemet R47 series. I would use 47nF 440VAC X capacitors and 33-100R 1/2W. You will also need a smaller snubber (voltage) across the small relay's contact to stop it from arcing due to the main contactor's coil inductance.