I had tried the following, but it didn't seem to work.
I set up a separate 20amp three phase circuit with a 1500watt light bulb in series on each leg (so 3 bulbs total) to act as resistors.
Turn on the 20amp circuit to limit the inrush current with the light bulbs and then switch on the 100amp circuit to fully energize the transformer and then turn off the 20amp circuit.
Both the 20amp and 100amp circuit are feeding the H1 H2 H3(wired in reverse) on the transformer
When the 100 amp circuit is turned on the light bulbs should essentially dim because the electricity will follow the path of least resistance and then I can shut down the 20amp circuit.
When I turned on the 20amp circuit the bulbs were very dim (I thought they would be very bright, not sure why they didn't), but did get warm/hot. Then I turned on the 100 amp circuit and all 3 of the bulbs got very bright. When I switched off the 20amp breaker the bulbs slowly lost their light, but apparently it didn't work, because I shut everything down and tried again and the fuse was blown. So alas that's why I am here. Thanks again everyone.