I've triple checked and if the datasheet is correct and mouser shipped me the part on the label (both of these seem highly likely) then I have the drain hooked up to the higher voltage.
That said I think your point about the gs voltage makes sense. I'm not sure where you got 30V for mine. The datasheet seems to say mine is 2-4 volts. Based on the application note you sent me I think my max gs voltage needs be under 1.7 volts.