I agree with Max666. I would check with the datasheet of the device to see if there is any problem sinking that much current. I would also try the 10k resistor, just to see. Update: try a lower value capacitor with the 10k to not attenuate what you want to view. If that's not good enough filtering, put two filters in series.
Also, what do you mean by "The diode used to clamp to -0.7V however stops the gate driver working" ? Describe some of the symptoms that you see, for example a waveform that is different, or the voltage output goes to 0V, or 2.379V, or something to help us understand what you mean by 'not working'. If the diode is there, does the output go positive but not negative?
I understand a gate driver should be able to source and sink a significant amount of current, so provide us with more details, and someone will provide you with good direction on solving your issue.
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