OTOH relay cards with inadequate clearances for mains voltages are horribly common - to the point where it is difficult to find one with proper layout.
If this is going to be permanently installed (wired in place), DIN rail mounted contactors are the way to go. They wont be cheap but they are available with a 12V AC coil. You can also get a 12V AC DIN rail bell transformer to power the contacters and even DIN rail mount PSUs in a variety of voltages to power the SMS relay board. You'll probably need some way of manually overriding the SMS control board which if it doesn't already have an override feature could be some SPDT-CO rocker switches wired to bypass or disconnect the relay contacts on the SMS board. If mounted in an appropriate DIN rail enclosure, with a main isolating switch and each load protected by an appropriate circuit breaker, you shouldn't have any problems getting the installation approved by an electrical inspector.
If its intended to be plug-in, it gets a lot trickier because a Schuko socket is only good for an absolute maximum of 16A and connecting more than 3KW of heaters to one is unwise. Also running extension cables from your controller to your heaters is undesirable. Your best bet would be commercially available remote control plug in appliance modules, and either hack the handheld controller to interface to your SMS board (which may need an extra circuit to get momentary contacts you can wire across the ON and OFF buttons that pulse when the relay changes state), or simply get a SMS controller for the same signalling system as the appliance modules, which may have the benefit that you can interrogate it remotely to check the status.
In all cases, the applience module or contactor *MUST* be rated for the full load current with an adequate safety margin and it would be extremely unwise to use the system with anything except thermostactically controlled convector heaters (e.g. storage heaters or oil filled electric radiators). Specifically, *DO* *NOT* use it with radiant or fan assisted heaters. (Unless you want to meet the fire truck coming back from your summer house when you are going to it!)