Hmmm, (ignoring the O.P's requirement clarification and considering the more general case he originally requested), if gate leakage current of the MOSFETs is low enough, a pair of back to back MOSFETs driven by a 4000 series CMOS flipflop powered by a small 12V alkaline battery (e.g A23) could be used to implement a latching SSR, good for close to the shelf life of the battery. Use pulse transformers to drive S and R as optocouplers could cause excessive battery drain. Although it would need significant input current to switch, that would only be for a few tens of us S or R pulse, so the average input current could be sub 1uA.