The last batch of solder I bought was lead free, since RS will no longer sell leaded to me.
Honestly, it makes no difference to me. The only thing I noticed is that it seems to create more pointy joints if I rework it too much, more than I seem to remember the leaded stuff doing. A dab of flux and a quick application of heat fixes it right up though, just like it did with leaded, so meh, couldn't care less about the type of solder I'm using now.
If you have special requirements for a particular type of solder, then fair play, but you're probably in a situation to know that you need it at that stage.
As for flux, I'm done with those flux pens for sure. They never seemed to work great for me, and not to mention the tip eventually becomes a mushy mess. I would apply some, then touch my iron, and it would seem to bubble and hiss at me for a second or two and then barely make an improvement to the joint. I'm now using a more pasty flux from a syringe and it works a million times better.
Felder ISO-CORE "RA" solder
MG Chemicals 8341, 10ml tube but it goes a long way (unless you're Louis Rossmann)