I quote this statement you wrote because this is a good illustration of where we diverge from our view of everything:
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For example, if a classical coin has fallen behind a wall, the fact that we don't know whether it is heads or tails does not mean that the coin is physically in some intermediate state. Our description is uncertain, but the coin itself is not in an intermediate state.
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Here is my view of that statement, for better or worse...
First, there is no such thing as a "classical coin". We have coins, that's it. That's reality and there is no way around that. We can talk about a classical coin, but that means we have automatically fallen under some assumptions about reality, when what we are trying to determine all along is what reality is or what we know about it. We want the bottom-line truth.
This is why I think you are looking too hard for comfort in physics when there is none really.
The point I made about observation is that since EVERYTHING we see and know is based on observation, then we look at everything through a sort of "observation" filter. Something appears, but we don't see it, we only see it AFTER it passes through that observation window. It's completely out of view until it passes though, and unfortunately once it passes through we lose detail, detail that we may never get back.
The coin is in a superposition of states behind the wall because we can't observe it. This comes from a chain of reasoning that is part of quantum physics. This is really the way reality is. The only reason we BELIEVE it is in one state or the other is due to PAST observations that told us that "coins always land heads or tails" (excluding the edge case for simplicity). But that observation set was done in the PAST, and that pushes it right into the statistical average category where we rely on common observations over time. That does not mean that it is REALLY heads or tails, it just SUGGESTS that it is PROBABLY heads or tails. We have never seen it in a state other than that, that's what makes us BELIEVE it will be again. In quantum physics though, the down to earth hard and very uncomfortable truth, is that belief is just a heuristic, although it is a very good one for our common experience and our survival. The QM statistics says that the probability that it will be in some other state is very, very low, BUT it's NOT ZERO. Again uncomfortable, but true.
This is not just weird as all heck to us, it's weird as all heck to everyone.
I would draw the line between uncertainty in our knowledge and quantum superposition. A coin being behind a wall does not put it into a quantum superposition simply because we cannot observe it. If the coin has landed heads or tails, our lack of knowledge about which one it is does not by itself establish that its physical state is indefinite.
Returning to the example of the mathematical model of a wave using a rotating vector. The projection of that vector onto an axis can describe the measured real signal extremely well but this does not mean that the signal is physically represented by a rotating vector. It may be a very useful and valid mathematical description but the fact that a model accurately describes the observed behavior does not by itself prove that the model is literally what exists in reality.
So I think we should be careful not to confuse a mathematical model with a statement about what reality ultimately is. Claiming that the mathematical description itself is literally the underlying reality goes beyond what the model and the observations alone establish. Without experimental evidence distinguishing that interpretation from other possibilities that becomes a philosophical claim rather than a scientific conclusion.
We may have several models that work within certain limits but we tend to choose one and treat it as reality. Yet reality may be described by a completely different model that we have not discovered yet. 
Hello again,
Well we've both been hand waving a little and that's why we have not reached a consensus yet. We can't talk about something with the detail needed to describe it without supplying that detail. I think it's time to dig a little deeper, and it does get interesting, but it also gets even stranger. In the process though I think I can provide a reasonable solution that will seem more comfortable for you, although you may be aware of a lot of this already. I just want to point out a few details that should clear things up a bit more. I'll quote your statements so that I can reply to them appropriately, then add some notes at the end.
"I would draw the line between uncertainty in our knowledge and quantum superposition. A coin being behind a wall does not put it into a quantum superposition simply because we cannot observe it. If the coin has landed heads or tails, our lack of knowledge about which one it is does not by itself establish that its physical state is indefinite."
Your uncertainty idea is right in the classical sense, but in the quantum sense it is very, very, very, rare, but also not zero I don't think. This means that even in the quantum world we might see heads or tails, but there is a really huge requirement for that to happen. We'd have to see all of the quantum states in some sort of symmetry where they interact so as to provide a stable state that looks classical even though it's still quantum. We do have to get more detailed though to see this. If we have one quantum object behind the wall I think you would agree that it is in a superposition of states. But what if we have a LOT of quantum objects behind the wall that interact the way they might if they were part of a small coin. In this toy model, the quantum states would present an oscillation in amplitude that would keep the whole in a state of superposition. That one very rare case though is if they could somehow interact with some sort of symmetry. In that case they could stabilize into LOOKING like either heads or tails, and stay that way indefinitely. This would fit your scenario where they MUST be heads or tails. It's incredibly rare though because there are a lot of states and they would all have to act in just the right way, such as their phase relationships. So it's not that it can NEVER happen, but it is very UNLIKELY, and the more particles, the more unlikely it gets, and I think with every new particle the chance decreases by half (or something like that). But the uncertainty is not the same as quantum superposition, but then I'm not being uncertain about the superposition. In fact, I am very certain about the superposition. We may not know if it is heads or tails in the classical sense, but we not only do not know the state in the quantum sense, it actually has not been determined YET so we could not possibly know it. The difference is that in the classical sense we ASSUME something, while in the quantum sense we do not assume anything because there is nothing to assume: it is simply not in one state yet (except it may look like it is in that one very very rare case). So in short, classically we assume something (as we always do based on more common experience) and quantumly we don't.
"The rotating vector analogy..."
I do not think we can use an analogy here because there is no classical analogy. If it is classical, then it's not quantum, end of story, and the fact that it is quantum is what makes the difference, so here we can't talk classical really and expect it to work like a quantum system. That will never happen.
"So I think we should be careful not to confuse a mathematical model with a statement about what reality ultimately is. Claiming that the mathematical description itself is literally the underlying reality goes beyond what the model and the observations alone establish. Without experimental evidence distinguishing that interpretation from other possibilities that becomes a philosophical claim rather than a scientific conclusion."
We are not really confusing a math model with reality. We did not find a math model lurking around in space somewhere and say, "hey let's use this math to find out what reality is". We have observed reality in the strictest sense and then found that it has certain properties that can be DESCRIBED by a logical expression(s), and some of the logic depicts the idea that sometimes we get no immediate solution. That's all it really is really, it's a math expression that shows us about quantum physics. But that math did not come first, it only came after certain measurements were made and conclusions drawn. It's sort of like curve fitting but on a much more precise scale that includes no "sum of squared error" because it is completely accurate to any desired precision. So in short, reality told us what math to use, math didn't tell us what reality was.
"We may have several models that work within certain limits but we tend to choose one and treat it as reality. Yet reality may be described by a completely different model that we have not discovered yet."
Oh I have to agree with that for the most part. However, quantum physics is different because it describes cases where nature has no solution and never will. This area is a little shady though because we can't predict the future. Something could change that changes a lot of what we know about reality. For example, is there a better cosmological model that can show that quantum physics is not the best way to view nature, that there is something more basic. That is possible, but the way it looks right now is that a more fundamental theory would simply be able to produce quantum theory as a sub theory. We can't know for sure of course. Since we are talking about this though we are concentrating on two models: classical and quantum, as we know them today in the latter part of the year 2026.
Ok so that's the end of the quoting I'd just like to add a few more notes...
I think it's important to note that a quantum system is not the same as a classical system. It can become a classical system though once decoherence takes place. When we talk about a quantum system though, we don't mix it with a classical system unless we introduce decoherence, and then we explain how that decoherence came about. In the case of a set of quantum objects that represent a toy coin, if we place a solid wall between us and the coin we assume that the wall did not interfere with the coin. If we did, we could not talk about the quantum system anymore because it would probably decohere into a classical system where we would see heads or tails. If we allow that, then we just reduced everything to classical which is not what we want to do all the time. In fact, it would have to take place in vacuum and we would have to prevent anything from interfering with it. If anything did interfere, it would eventually turn it classic either very quickly or after some time. What does this mean for a coin we find in our pocket. Unfortunately, that coin already has states that have decohered so we can't even start with that in order to gain understanding of the quantum world. If somehow it did not go through that decoherence yet, as soon as it reacted with the environment it would decohere, so that does not help either. This is why we have to think about doing this in a vacuum with no radiation and no random fluctuations, no EM, etc. This is probably the detail you need in order to accept the idea of a continuous quantum set of states with the very rare case of looking classical even though it stays quantum.
We have to look at the details in order to understand how this can happen. I think that should make you more comfortable with the whole thing
