Like in many treads here, the major part of the problem is trying to figure out what the OP is trying to do. I am not even going to try because there are many posts which would need much de-confusing.
I do want to present something I have done in the past and I believe it is an idea which may be useful to others. I have used it with PIR detectors but can be used with anything which changes its current consumption when it changes state. This circuit detects the increase in current consumption and activates a transistor which can be used to activate a relay or anything else.
The main advantage is that I don't need to get into the circuit as I only monitor the current consumption as it goes into the circuit being monitored.