What is "inrush snubbing"? My point is the solenoid impedance is not constant. You don't get much force for 65mA, to push a pintle against water pressure for example, which kicks back on return. These must be very tiny.
I also see winding shorts on solenoids running high duty cycle. For low current AC switching, you can use an opto-triac but a bit expensive and it has to be able to clear that fuse if there's a fault with the load.
Vishay BRT21 family "...to control resistive, inductive, or capacitive AC loads like motors, solenoids, high power thyristors, or TRIACs and solid-state relays." They appear not only for triac driving.
Bolting on a low cost Z01 triac to the
MOC3041 MOC3021 for example, may end up cheaper and tougher than the opto-triac ssr. Check the SOT-223 doesn't have the spacings requirements so they offer the SMBflat-3L package.
edit: zero-cross switching of inductive loads is proven to have the highest inrush currents, due to dV/dt being highest at zero-cross for a sine-wave.