You know what? I am approaching the exact same issue!

I bought an ebay module very similar to yours, just to build up and test the firmware stuff, but ASAP I will go for a proper PCB in the final stage. Absolutely need BNC connectors!
As an output, I want to go for a double output stage:
1) low impedance output for audio stuff: I will stick with a simple opamp, maybe something very hig-end from AD or TI, still to find the P/N.
2) 50 ohm output for RF. Need to use a very high bandwidth opamp, like e.g. AD8000 (Ghz range UGBW, 4 dollars x1pc on DGK), and design an adequate PCB for that. No ceramic stuff, just proper decoupling and impedance control.
The audio part will be switched off automatically after 100 kHz, details TBD.
Gain switching is somehow easy, just a bunch of switched resistors - maybe some PGAs exist as well, but I do not have any P/N yet.
For the second part, my only doubt is regarding AD9850 amplitude performance over the whole range. Can we investigate a little deeper on why the amplitude is drooping afret 25 MHz? I am very upset for the layout of your board, maybe that is the root cause of the pole we are seeing.
I'd like to propose you an affair: you can fix the firmware with controls, display, smooth operation & co., and I will design a proper PCB and prototype! It could fit well in a Hammond box, maybe someone else is interested...

Where are you from, precisely?