As you mention, not all meters are the same. Maybe it have a surge rated resistor in series with the PTC. Cheap meters I have looked at use a 5mm PTC with no series resistor.
I can see the wannabe home tech, repairing their microwave oven and thinking, I saw Dave recommend this so I'm just going to discharge the 1uF 2kV cap with my cheapo meter and cheap test leads.
While you do mention it could damage your meter, from a safety standpoint, I use a homemade chickenstick. These have some HV resistors. Note the LED. Turns off at about 10V.