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A frank explanation, and also an apology
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eti:
Guys, thank you all SO much for your kindness and compassion. GOD bless you. Thank you, truly.
Kasper:
I too have had problems with my home that caused a lot of stress.  I fought hard to fix them and it ended up being a waste.  My biggest regret with that situation was not moving on sooner.  When I finally did move out, life improved quickly and drastically despite being a little crowded as I moved from a 1100 sq ft condo into a 300 sq ft suite.  I hope your experience will be similar, except hopefully you find more than 300 sq ft.

CatalinaWOW:
Best of luck to you as time goes on.

Two bits of encouragement. 

In my late teens and early twenties I developed a pretty nasty way of interacting with others.  I suddenly realized that it was hurting people close to me and consciously started to change.  It wasn't easy learning a whole new way of living, but it has been well worth it.  Unfortunately some debris from those years still comes up from time to time from people who have been in my life that long.  I am sure you will fight some of that too, but don't let it get you down.

Life has a way of developing rough spots.  During those times it is even more important to have places to cling to, places you cherish and enjoy.  The friends you have in nearby villages seem to be one such place for you, and hopefully this forum is another.  It is well worth the effort to protect those things from the emotional torrents that the rest of life is putting you through.  This thread is clearly an attempt in that direction and an ongoing effort will pay dividends.  The old and mechanical rule of waiting an hour or day or whatever it takes before hitting the send key on an emotional message actually works pretty well.

MrMobodies:

--- Quote from: eti on October 20, 2022, 11:58:42 pm ---Dear friends, even those who cannot stand seeing my posts...

I wanted to explain a few things about my behaviour, esp maybe the last 6 months. I was under IMMENSE mental duress and anxiety, since 2016 )
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Looking at your country flag it shows you're from England. With the way this country is at the moment for some people I am not surprised.


--- Quote --- ENDLESS ineptitude on the behalf of the "officials" and contractors paid to make my parent's retirement home fit to live in, the stress of knowing we were - AND WE WERE - kicked out of our family home of 40 years, all because said agency decides * "We like people to retire at 70" - ** I cannot expand on specifics, but my parents and the whole family are VERY deeply rooted and engrained in the village, we have MANY friends there, and in the other, nearby villages, who ADORE Mum and Dad, and were VERY angry at their forced - ahem - "retirement"
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* Like to?
That sounds disgusting way to treat someone who would still like to work and maybe still able to work.
** I wonder if they would be forced to expand on the specifics in a court of law.

Did they own the house?
I thought there was protection for those in council homes where they send visitors to assist and meals on wheels but maybe things have changed.

For whatever reason, I am sorry you had to move house and I am worried that might happen to me someday too and I would never know what it would feel like until it happens to me. The way they treated you and your parents sounds to me like they are up to something.


--- Quote ---I have become rather cynical, hermit-like and rather bitter at times
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That is how I feeling right, but nowhere near as bitter loosing your home that you happy with. When I come across bullshit especially from some weeks ago to right now with companies demanding me to have things like a "smart meter" (yeh right prepaid meter in disguise) just for a feed in tariff which I didn't need in the other house I tend to get skeptical.

In their quote the smart meter they want to put in maybe inaccurate, on the phone to Octopus it has a 36p a day charge for it, they require half an hour readings from it via a good mobile signal which I don't have in this area and they can cut the supply off through the sim if there is signal if they feel that the bill hasn't been paid or by mistake. I'd rather they send someone out than willy nilly cut it off. I suppose the intentions are good but from what I reading about those who had them I don't trust them at the moment.

I find it's nice to have you here being objective.

I have a lot of things that I collected over the years and it would be devastating for me to get rid of them as a result of a move.
EEVblog:
Thanks for sharing.


--- Quote from: eti on October 20, 2022, 11:58:42 pm ---I have become rather cynical, hermit-like and rather bitter at times, towards people, having had myriad people RAMMING "advice" down my throat, relentlessly, in the middle of what felt like a perpetual mental TORNADO!. I have found it extremely hard (at some points, I recall clearly having lost ALL interest in literally ANYTHING, asking myself "What's the point in interests?" etc.

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I'll refrain from trying to help with "advice", the same "advice" thing has been happening in the thread (and on Youtube) for Fran, with people incluing myself trying to help her out with "advice". The best of intenting with trying to help in that case seems to have just made things worse.
Hope it works out well for you.
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