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ADVICE REQUEST - will my passion for electronics disappear?
Ed.Kloonk:
--- Quote from: Kasper on March 22, 2022, 04:13:44 am ---
--- Quote from: Ed.Kloonk on March 22, 2022, 03:10:45 am ---I'd like to point out that 50 is now what used to be 40. Buy the sports car. Get it out of your system. Don't buy a motor bike if your 50 and never owned one, that's silly.
Enjoy your 50's. Get some loud t-shirts. Go nuts!
Oh, and schedule a colonoscopy.
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I had a mid 20s crisis and bought a dirtbike. Almost lasted a whole week before I tried wheelying and ended up in the hospital. Kind of sucked losing function in my right arm for a while but learning to do things left handed did make life interesting.
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The ground seems to get harder as you get older.
Kasper:
--- Quote from: Ed.Kloonk on March 22, 2022, 04:52:09 am ---
--- Quote from: Kasper on March 22, 2022, 04:13:44 am ---
--- Quote from: Ed.Kloonk on March 22, 2022, 03:10:45 am ---I'd like to point out that 50 is now what used to be 40. Buy the sports car. Get it out of your system. Don't buy a motor bike if your 50 and never owned one, that's silly.
Enjoy your 50's. Get some loud t-shirts. Go nuts!
Oh, and schedule a colonoscopy.
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I had a mid 20s crisis and bought a dirtbike. Almost lasted a whole week before I tried wheelying and ended up in the hospital. Kind of sucked losing function in my right arm for a while but learning to do things left handed did make life interesting.
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The ground seems to get harder as you get older.
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Yes it does seem that way and the injuries last longer. It felt pretty hard at the time though, I was used to falling on snow.
Dubbie:
Seems like you are well on your way to becoming that creepy guy that all the young woman warn each other about.
penfold:
--- Quote from: mcinque on March 20, 2022, 12:37:12 pm ---[...]
I've started to change: I go to the gym, I use perfume, I've revamped my wardrobe...I start teasing around with every actractive woman I meet. It's just not me anymore.
I would like some advice from you: has this happened to you before? Is this something that resolves itself? It seems a midlife crisis.
Tell me this is not the prelude to abandon my cave, my electronic instruments and and/or my woman...
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I'd really recommend speaking to a therapist/counselor, it sounds like a bit of a mind vs brain issue: it sounds like you don't want to give up any of those things, but there's a bit of a brain-chemistry shift that's making you crave the more "exciting" side of life and that can happen for so many reasons at any age and it's not a pleasant thing to go through... speak to anybody with bipolar or ADHD if you want to know how easy it is to regret following those whims and fancies no matter how permanent or justified they feel.
Maybe it'll pass or maybe it's a permanent change, but don't throw away anything that you'll never get back (time, 20-year long relationships, friends, test gear collections etc) without an absolute guarantee of its permanency.
The rational interpretation is that going to the gym, flirting, wearing perfume, and revamping your wardrobe are all common sources of endorphins: directly from exercise or indirectly by getting noticed or complimented on positive changes. The human brain is very good at attributing those endorphin sources to specific things and making you believe that's what you want and making you feel depressed when you don't do those things or envious of others that do... but all it wants are those endorphins. There are only so many new outfits you can buy, only so dense a fog of cologne your colleagues can tolerate, and hours per week you can put towards chasing 24 year-olds or at the gym... if it's a permanent problem, find a permanent solution. Or at least, don't sacrifice anything for a temporary fix that'll only leave you craving your old life. Speak to a pro, they're good at that stuff.
Take that with a pinch of salt, I'm just having my mid-30s crisis now, but I'm hoping the solution is going to be to settle down and grow my electronics lab a bit more... please don't prove me wrong!
mcinque:
--- Quote from: Bud on March 21, 2022, 03:40:51 pm ---Keep your toys and workbench, you will need them when your last blast of testosterone will wear out. :)
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;D
--- Quote from: jmelson on March 21, 2022, 05:16:20 pm ---If you have spent a lot of time,effort and money developing skills and setting up a lab, it would be a shame to abandon it all.
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totally agree
--- Quote from: Kasper on March 22, 2022, 04:06:51 am ---make peace with the fact that you will never get everything you want.
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I know that, unfortunately
--- Quote from: Kasper on March 22, 2022, 04:06:51 am ---Have you tried sports or video games? Sometimes the cravings for new women can be fullfilled by other types of excitment or new experiences.
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videogames have been a big part of my 20's and 30's, especially online. they even made me temporarily lose some friends, so much so that I was dedicated. I tried to get back into them but the gaming community now is really toxic and overcompetitive, to the point that playing is no longer fun unless you have the attitude of a 7 year old kid. before we played on national servers, we knew almost everyone (we were always the same names, the online community before was not so great), we all spoke the same language and above all for the majority we respected each other: we played for fun above all. Now in any game you enter there are hordes of kids who shout into the microphone, use cheats of all kinds, go to humiliate those of lower level (trolling/smurfing) ... stuff that only kindergarteners do.
I recently started playing sports again on solo.
--- Quote from: Kasper on March 22, 2022, 04:06:51 am ---Seems perfectly reasonable that you are seeking new experiences.
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this is very comforting to me
--- Quote from: Kasper on March 22, 2022, 04:06:51 am ---As exciting as your friend's stories sound, keep in mind it is common for men to wildly exagurrate stories like that and it is rare for them to share stories of loneliness and desperation. Ontop of that, your friend may be conflicted by wanting a wing man. You may be viewing a very skewed sample of that kind of life.
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Oh yes, this is totally true. He himself has told me that the life he has chosen is not all it seems and he is the first to tell me not to do as he does.
--- Quote from: Kasper on March 22, 2022, 04:06:51 am ---Before making big changes, try some small changes
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Yes, I'm trying to do that
--- Quote from: Kasper on March 22, 2022, 04:06:51 am ---Or maybe you'll end up single where having interesting and social hobbies and being in shape reduces the odds of a lonely and desperate end to your mid life crisis
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Agree. Thanks for your kind and deep message!
--- Quote from: penfold on March 22, 2022, 08:59:53 am ---The human brain is very good at attributing those endorphin sources to specific things and making you believe that's what you want and making you feel depressed when you don't do those things or envious of others that do... but all it wants are those endorphins.
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^THIS
I've repeatedly thought about this: you're right. What I'm looking for is is that euphoric feeling when I get a date with a young woman. Something I used to try with new electronic projects or computer things. Something that now I lost and probably I'm seeking in other things.
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