Righty, sorry for the late reply, several projects on at the moment - I should be grateful for the surplus of work.
Yeah looks like brass.
What soldering iron and tip? The tip should be large enough to completely cover the end flat portion when pressed up against the terminal.
I have a 60W iron with a large 3mm chisel tip - pretty beefy, or at least the beefiest I have. This works just fine for tin plated large screw terminals of a similar size/mass. I do indeed use the flat side butted up against the end of ther terminal - furthest from the plastic housing to minimise potential melting, along with a small blob of solder to provide the best thermal contact. Again, for similar tin plated terminals this works well, I can tin the terminals in about a second - but for these its more like 6-7. Temp was set to 400C (350 took way too long). By which time the poor flux had all burned away.
Nickel can be soldered with ordinary Kester #44 flux and 63/37 solder. Done it with nickel strips to make NiCd battery packs many times.
Never tried LF, if that is what you are using.
I'm using SAC305, but have some higher temp LF. I am not using any special kind of flux. I have seen flux specifically for nickel surfaces:
https://termopasty.pl/en/produkty/ag-soldering-acid/ And a youtube video of a guy using it points out its pretty noxious and must be thoroughly cleaned afterwards. It's an option of course, but I'll probably have to do the soldering (well, just using this to tin the contacts) in a better ventilated workshop.
What I've done - before I get into any kind of plating, is try and sand the contacts with 400-800 grit. This is enough to get the brass to shine through but cannot get to the part where the diameter of the contact narrows. So when soldering, the solder won't wety to this part, and forms a small amount of black - which I'm guessing is nickel oxide - crud that forms a void under the joint. It's really rather messy, so I'm sacrificing a few of these connectors to test.
Re: "Pre-tinning". Thats what I'm trying to do. Once solder is on the contact, its obviously going to be easy, but getting the solder to wet is tough. As I said the only way I have managed this is both by sanding the metal - not really ideal for 50+ of these things - and then using a higher temp iron + far too long dwell time which is only going to risk damaging the housing.
I agree with jpanhalt, Kester 44 flux cored solder works wonders in many situations where lesser flux does not cut it.
I'll see if I can pick some up. If it isn't has potent as the one I linked above it'll be handy to have on the shelf for just this sort of thing.
Edit: it seems I can get "sample" amounts of kester 44 Sn63 Pb37, and/or LF (SAC305) with flux 285. Are both fluxes compatible with nickel?Sometimes when soldering to pins in plastic housings like this, I will insert the mating connector beforehand, to help hold the pins in place when/if the housing softens due to heat.
Yes, I do that. I learned I had to do that for some cheaper DC sockets I used a while back. The plug that goes into these sockets doesn't sit neatly (I've glued shims to one to use it as the "holder"), but it grips the pins with enough force to hold them in place, and probably will prevent me from pushing or pulling the pins out of a melted housing. So far, none of the pins have moved on the 3 connectors I've done.
Whilst I mentioned plating in the original post, I had a thought - I need to solder to this, and considered plating something over it (additive) but what about deplating (subtractive)? Stripping nickel chemically is going to require fairly harsh acids, but electrochemically? Might be workrth sacrificing a couple more to test if I can pull the nickel plating off the brass using nothing more than an electrolyte and a few volts. Time isn't really a concern, and these are quite small, so I could do them in batches of 10 in a tiny (de)plating bath.