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Genuine question- is Please and Thankyou a cultural thing on the EEVBlog forum ?

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unixb0y:
My 2 cents: I was raised in Germany and also learned to always say thanks when someone helped you. I don't think we always say "please" when asking a question, like "do you know how to do X?" or "do you have a recommedation or opinion on product Y?" I wouldn't actually know how to put a "please" in there.

I also agree that on most forums "thank you" replies (if they add nothing new) are discouraged to prevent clutter, so that's why there are the thanks buttons. I personally always want to thank and most of the times still do, but do make sure to add some additional feedback or info that makes my post more meaningful also to others reading the thread in the future, like stuff that didn't work or so.
In PMs, not thanking would be very rude and "ghosting" (just taking the advice / help and neither replying nor clicking the thanks button) is also super rude imho.

Bud:
There is another extreme though, in real life, when people thank you 3 or 5 or more times on a same occasion. I absolutely hate this and try to get away from them as soon as possible to escape the endless "thank you again" diarrhea. This is even more annoying than not receiving one at all.

In regards to forums, i think posting explicit thanks messages is totally fine in individual conversations over PM. In regular topics that would clutter the information flow. Topics are not one-to-one communications. I think "thank you" button is the right solution for it.

floobydust:
I find Brits more well mannered and educated in etiquette, whereas in North America we are just kurt and Canadians usually blunt. We could care less or even notice an Essex verses Sussex accent, or the Queen's english.

One forum forbids single "thank you" posts, I think to keep things strictly business. The button here seems to cover it fine.

Something important to mention though, I notice women in business express thanks and gratitude amongst themselves all the time.
Men I've worked with don't bother. It's a 'grunt' and on with the next issue. We don't need or say thanks as much in comparison.

I've learned if I give thanks or express gratitude, it makes a huge difference in relationships, at a business level and personal level. Just try it some day, it's neat experiment.

ogden:
So many people takes community help on internet forums for a granted. Just live with that. You can't fix whole world of internet anyway. If you can't stand ungrateful - do not help them :)

tautech:
To some degree the basic lack of manners is a reflection of todays societies and modern parenting.

Now as a grandad I see it more and more around us where we insisted on our 3 using the 3 magic words of please and thank you and provided everyday examples to them by insisting their friends added the magic words into requests for anything.
Can I have a biscuit ? ….. not without a magic word !  Hand biscuit over ...... excuse me but what do you say ?

Kiddies from a young age twigged pretty quickly what was etiquette when they came to visit as do grandchildren that should never be underestimated for how sharp they can be.
At 3 our granddaughter in Perth twigged she could wind up her Perth based grandad just calling him grandad when it had zero effect on me whereas he had to be called poppa !  ::)

Like others I get PM's from zero posters that always get pointed back to the forum so to add to the knowledgebase so we all can benefit.

When we are grateful for anything there is no shame in showing it.

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