I asked a technical question from them (circuitpython) and one responder was complaining that I didn't list [my pronouns], and they had no idea how to refer to me
. On discord, where @tszaboo gets you a notification. Imagine pushing political agenda on you after asking a technical question.
It's not about politics or ideology for me: I genuinely have problems with grammatical gender, as my native language has none and I prefer to just skip the entire thing in English by using
they even for singular.
In colloquial Finnish, it is common to use
it ("se") for everything from inanimate things to humans. (Typical example: They went to the bathroom =
"Se meni vessaan.") Some people insist on using
them ("hän") for their pets, and get offended if you use
it as for ordinary animals, because they feel it makes them less than persons. Me, I tend to use
it for everybody, and most animals are very happy to interact with me (or my hands and fingers, to be specific; both pets and domestics, and in certain cases even wild animals), and don't care what words I use, because they seem to find me easy to "read". Humans, in comparison, are weird and difficult, and I often fail with them, no matter how hard I try. In face-to-face discussion my body language reaction is so immediate and obvious that most humans forgive me my gaffes immediately, unless their ideology forbids them. Most people also tend to find me easy to "read" and seem to be delighted to interact with me face-to-face, as far as I can determine (so not very far!) from repeated interactions. (Funnily enough, I tend to interact well even with very religious people, even though my own attitude is best described as agnostic. For example, I don't mind my actions being judged at all, as long as the judgment is done
fairly. Fairness is absolutely crucial to me, though. It probably helps that I always apply it first to my own behaviour, with less strict demands/rules for others' behaviour.)
I do get called "racist" surprisingly often, even though I find the entire concept utterly ridiculous: to me, claiming that a person has intrinsic worth different to that of myself makes absolutely no sense, and emotionally feels similar to someone claiming they have psychic powers. White supremacism, or exceptionalism in general, is in my opinion utter nonsense without any logical or rational basis. If anything, I'm egalitarian to the core, with a very strong emphasis on fairness in all interactions. Usually, it is really that those people find my egalitarian attitude unacceptable, and prefer a group identity based one instead, with no further arguments left but to label me a bad person whose opinions and logic should be ignored.
I do not mind that SparkFun and Adafruit and others have stopped using MISO and MOSI in relation to SPI. It is absolutely fine in my opinion, because after all, they are businesses/organizations where end user interaction is paramount. The problem is when my projects, my output, is rejected simply because I did not use the required terms. And that obviously extends to everyone else, too. (I really get angry about shunning/exclusion for unfair reasons.)
That is, it is the forced speech that is most problematic to me; and not because of ideology, but because I am aware of and suffer from personal limitations regarding such language. Lack of
fairness –– especially when some words are acceptable or unacceptable depending on the group membership of the utterer –– is an even bigger problem for me personally. It is not a learned or acquired feature or ideology, though; we know from animal experiments that it is deep biological/physiological one, observed in many animals as well, and not at all unique to us humans. Thus, in my opinion, fairness should be more important than ideological reasoning. Only practical reasons should ever overrule basic/fundamental fairness.