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| Nominal Animal:
On the other hand, if all the people on the other side of the bridge are truly horrible and you are sure you never want to be in a project where they are even incidentally involved, then bridge-burning is warranted. Sure, it may/will reduce job opportunities in the future, but it is more important for ones own sanity to only consider jobs one is suited for. One does not need a large number of job opportunities to choose from, if the set contains good ones. Conversely, if all job opportunities are horrible, it may be time to switch careers. |
| nctnico:
--- Quote from: Nominal Animal on September 28, 2022, 02:26:56 pm ---On the other hand, if all the people on the other side of the bridge are truly horrible and you are sure you never want to be in a project where they are even incidentally involved, then bridge-burning is warranted. --- End quote --- I'm too lazy for that. I just put such people on my mental ignore list. Why dignify horrible people with spending any of your precious time and effort on them? |
| themadhippy:
Is a quiet word in a dark corner of the carpark no longer an option? |
| tggzzz:
--- Quote from: nctnico on September 28, 2022, 01:12:54 pm --- --- Quote from: fourfathom on September 28, 2022, 08:10:33 am --- --- Quote from: Psi on September 27, 2022, 07:11:42 am ---Yep, that's why I said that he resign at the same time. It mostly eliminates those suspicions about false complaints because he'd be leaving anyway. He wouldn't have anything to gain by sending the letter other than giving the CEO a heads-up about the problem. --- End quote --- (I bolded the important part). He might have something to lose though. A letter to the CEO will likely do no good whatsoever, and may still damage his career should a prospective employer contact the previous employer for a reference. Sending a letter to the CEO just looks bad, and you owe them nothing. If the previous company management wants feedback they will ask for it during an exit interview. --- End quote --- Exactly! Remember it is a small world out there; 6 degrees of seperation ( https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Six_degrees_of_separation)! It happens to me regulary that when I talk to a customer that they know several people I have worked with in the past. So burning one bridge leads to a raging forrest fire quickly. Even when asked for feedback, bite your tongue hard and stay positive. --- End quote --- There's a lot of validity in that. One bridge I don't mind burning is my "Erdos Putin number". Me->relative->wife->mother->Putin :) Then there's my "web number" from when I was a kid. Me->Tim Berners-Lee. Haven't seen him since, but did re-meet his lovely parents :) |
| fourfathom:
--- Quote from: Nominal Animal on September 28, 2022, 02:26:56 pm ---On the other hand, if all the people on the other side of the bridge are truly horrible and you are sure you never want to be in a project where they are even incidentally involved, then bridge-burning is warranted. --- End quote --- I guess it depends on your definition of bridge-burning, but I suggest just crossing that bridge, and leave your troubles behind on the other side. Don't turn back and there's no need to burn anything. You don't want to tarnish your reputation just to make some kind of useless statement. |
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