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fourfathom:
Is a better job so hard to find?  From here it sounds like an unpleasant, dead-end environment.

rstofer:
By giving you formal notification, the company is building a case to fire you for cause which they are documenting with the letter.  I don't know how many letters it takes to fire someone for cause but you're on the way.  Don't be surprised if you get other letters in the near future.

Make no mistake, your time at the company is short.  You will be leaving, you might as well make the next move.

If you are the only party to receive a 'do better' letter, the company is already taking sides and you lost.

nctnico:

--- Quote from: rstofer on September 19, 2022, 06:19:05 pm ---Your resignation letter should read like the following with no additions:


--- Quote ---Please accept my resignation effective <insert date here>

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Sign and date but do NOT offer up reasons or excuses.  If possible, decline any meetings with Employee Relations other than those required to transfer any retirement amounts.  Sign acknowledgements of NDAs still in effect, don't agree to Non-Competes (they're not allowed in California, I don't know about elsewhere)

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Non competes for employees are very tricky to put in place & enforce in the NL. You really need help from a lawyer to figure out if you are actually bound to any non-compete you may have signed. If there isn't a specific monetary amount specified, then even a valid non-compete agreement is worth next to nothing anyway. Your former employer would need to go to court and prove that they are suffering damages before any claim can be made.

@tszaboo: I agree with the assesment of others that it is time to look for a new job in a different company. The relationship with your current employer just isn't working and there is no shame or error in that. Maybe even consider moving to a different part of the country. The culture varies a lot within the Netherlands depending on the area you are in. I have also worked at companies where I didn't fit in with the 'locals' 100%.

tszaboo:

--- Quote from: fourfathom on September 19, 2022, 06:27:05 pm ---Is a better job so hard to find?  From here it sounds like an unpleasant, dead-end environment.

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Oh, I started looking. But I also like to keep my options open. That's why I'm not burning bridges. I also notified upper management, that I'm not satisfied with their resolution of the problem. No threats or anything that's pointless.
And yes, being a foreigner, it makes finding a job harder. It's not to criticize the locals, it's just a fact.


--- Quote from: rstofer on September 19, 2022, 06:28:38 pm ---By giving you formal notification, the company is building a case to fire you for cause which they are documenting with the letter.  I don't know how many letters it takes to fire someone for cause but you're on the way.  Don't be surprised if you get other letters in the near future.

Make no mistake, your time at the company is short.  You will be leaving, you might as well make the next move.

If you are the only party to receive a 'do better' letter, the company is already taking sides and you lost.


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I'm aware, they were very clear about that.
It's only a scaremongering tactics, as I said the opportunity cost would be too much for the company to let me go.

nctnico:

--- Quote from: tszaboo on September 19, 2022, 10:09:07 pm ---
--- Quote from: fourfathom on September 19, 2022, 06:27:05 pm ---Is a better job so hard to find?  From here it sounds like an unpleasant, dead-end environment.

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Oh, I started looking. But I also like to keep my options open. That's why I'm not burning bridges. I also notified upper management, that I'm not satisfied with their resolution of the problem. No threats or anything that's pointless.

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That is a good idea. If you happen to find another job, just say you got a very good offer somewhere else and thus resign. Keep things positive. Maybe someday your current employer may come to their senses and asks you back.

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