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| Psi:
--- Quote from: nctnico on September 21, 2022, 05:25:58 pm --- --- Quote from: Psi on September 21, 2022, 11:29:42 am ---Hm.. Probably how I would handle this is a paper letter mailed to the CEO (or any high-up person that you know will listen). In the letter you would outline the issue and what dishonest things this person has been doing. The letter would end in your official resignation with a statement that you enjoy working there and would be very happy to come back but it's either him or you. Tell them you will give them 1-2 month before you move on. Then you take some time to do things around the house that you've been putting off, you look for new jobs etc.. But mostly you are waiting for bad stuff to happen at the company, due to you not being there, which proves to them you're more valuable than he is. By quitting you regain control of the situation. Either they will call, and you get your job back, or they don't and you move on. --- End quote --- That won't work. No employer will give an employee that kind of power. Just quit and say/write you got a better job offer elsewhere. BTW: CEO or any other person at management level won't care about problems between employees; they expect the lower management to deal with that. --- End quote --- That wasn't really the point, the point was to make it known at a higher level why you are leaving. It's not an ultimatum or power play, it's just "Hey, you have a big problem and i'm leaving because of it" This way, when all this persons lies are discovered and important things don't get done and the company starts losing money due to mistakes, someone at a high-level in the company goes "hang on, someone told me about this guy 6 months go" Babylon 5 Wisdom "When others do a foolish thing, you should tell them it is a foolish thing. They can still continue to do it, but at least the truth is where it needs to be" In this case the foolish thing is the company continue to employee the guy causing this problem. I do accept that it does depend on the size of the company. Obviously the CEO in a huge multinational company is not the right person to send a letter to, but for a much smaller company the CEO maybe the correct person. |
| hans:
But this again plays into feeling responsible for doing someone else's job (the CEO), or the company. Just let it go. |
| nctnico:
--- Quote from: Psi on September 22, 2022, 10:52:52 am --- --- Quote from: nctnico on September 21, 2022, 05:25:58 pm --- --- Quote from: Psi on September 21, 2022, 11:29:42 am ---Hm.. Probably how I would handle this is a paper letter mailed to the CEO (or any high-up person that you know will listen). In the letter you would outline the issue and what dishonest things this person has been doing. The letter would end in your official resignation with a statement that you enjoy working there and would be very happy to come back but it's either him or you. Tell them you will give them 1-2 month before you move on. Then you take some time to do things around the house that you've been putting off, you look for new jobs etc.. But mostly you are waiting for bad stuff to happen at the company, due to you not being there, which proves to them you're more valuable than he is. By quitting you regain control of the situation. Either they will call, and you get your job back, or they don't and you move on. --- End quote --- That won't work. No employer will give an employee that kind of power. Just quit and say/write you got a better job offer elsewhere. BTW: CEO or any other person at management level won't care about problems between employees; they expect the lower management to deal with that. --- End quote --- That wasn't really the point, the point was to make it known at a higher level why you are leaving. It's not an ultimatum or power play, it's just "Hey, you have a big problem and i'm leaving because of it" --- End quote --- Watch the entire video nvmR posted a few messages earlier. It is really good advice and a good view on how the world works. IF management is keen on keeping people on-board, they would do a better job or maybe they are not interested in keeping certain people in the first place. Sending a letter to a CEO is counterproductive and results in people having a negative vibe about you. The notion of keeping YOU on board as something that is important to the company should come from other people, not yourself. And even then management can decide to make the company less dependant on a single person. |
| fourfathom:
--- Quote from: nctnico on September 22, 2022, 01:03:15 pm ---And even then management can decide to make the company less dependant on a single person. --- End quote --- Any company should already be doing this. No matter how valuable, critical, and irreplaceable I am as an employee, and no matter how well I am treated, I can always be hit by a truck. |
| mrbrown:
I know it's hard to leave your comfort zone, but just go find a new job, that shouldn't be too difficult these days for anyone in your line of work. After 5 years of doing the same job it's never a bad idea to find something new, meet some new people to learn from, learn some new skills, regain motivation. Stick your energy in something positive, way more rewarding. |
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