For a 3 phase supply the neutral only has to carry imbalance currents. If the load has perfectly balanced currents across all the phases, there would be no net current flow through the neutral.
In this situation you could, in fact, disconnect the neutral feed from the supply and things would still keep running.
Worst case scenario would be if two phases had no load and the third phase was drawing maximum current. Then, the neutral would NEED to be as big as the phase or it would be overloaded. ANY increase in currents from the other two phases will result in a reduction of the neutral current, reaching a minimum when all 3 are equal.