3) Certain guys also need to learn to recognise when a woman they're into is also into them and BELIEVE IT, while at the same time recognise when a woman's only being friendly and that if a woman isn't into *them* *that way*, it's not because there's something wring with the woman or themselves. Rejection has never killed anyone.
P.S. Any woman who has romantic feelings for you, but doesn't engage because of what her friends or peers might think has a lot of growing up to do and wouldn't make a good partner, and *certainly* wouldn't make a good wife.
I'm sure a lot of my rambling applies to other gender-combinations but probably not exactly.
My son told me a good way to find out and it's actually brilliant. say you are in a place that is moderately crowded and there is a girl you like and you think she might be into you. Without looking at her fake a yawn, then check if she does yawn, if she does, then she was checking you out.
Should work on other gender combinations as well.
I never chased women, nor I think they chased me, but things just happen when you least expect it, usually is the right type of smile that lets you know, or the playing with her hair wile talking to you and the lack of awkward silences are a good indication. The trick is just be be ok with yourself, it's all about being confident. And just talk about normal everyday things or things you like and listen to her, I mean it's really simple.
For confidence, go to a bar and sing karaoke, If you can do that, you can talk to girls
If you are too shy or feel like you will ridicule yourself, I'll tell you that nobody in that place cares how good or bad you are (in general).
Although depending on the age group in the bar they might, I guess trying to do this in a college bar they might make fun of you if you do badly, but you can always find a place where the average age is 35 or more.
On rejection and being dumped. Don't be a creep! give them space if they want to move on, don't over do it and try to force them to get back with you, move on as well. Of course I'm talking dating periods of less than say 3 months it's not serious to go crazy, 6 months might start to get serious, a year well you should get married then, 3 years, she will move on because you will never commit.
If you find someone and you spend way too much time with "the boys" playing video games and getting high, or drinking, etc, without inviting her over, or never taking her out often and you just treat her like someone that you can call at night after being on a drinking spree to come over after you are done playing with your friends, believe me it won't end up good.
Most of my friends while not being married were female (just can talk so much about sports and tits & asses with "the boys" at the bar) so I've heard a lot of the female perspective of things. Funny thing I never dated any of my female friends. I don't mean all guys are like that, I have good male friends that are past the tits and ass conversations, sadly some never went past that.
On female friends, women have this ladder and you will be placed in one of the steps, if you are in the friends step, you'll rarely get promoted to a "doable" step. No matter where you are on the steps, you cross them you go into the abyss. If you try to get out of your step and think it's more than friendship, a misstep will push you to the abyss. Also not all females are looking for a long relationship, but you just have to be honest to yourself on what is all about, no harm on playing between consenting adults, as long as you are not misleading. Remember females talk about these things all the time I mean they talk about boys, but more on the relationship aspect with details, males don't (at least not all of us).
Guys on the other hand have just one single step and no abyss, well yeah they have an abyss but only triggered if cheated on, or perception of being cheated on.
Single women can be mean with each other too "frienemies" since they are really competing with each other, but that's when they are actively looking for someone in the same place. Another important thing, Do Not Ever date one of your ex-girlfriends friends. This opens Pandora's box and you don't want to ever open that box!
So single women can be as stupid as single men, and act desperate and funny when trying too hard. Specially on bars.
Which brings me back to the Sexism in engineering, woman that are married (or in a relationship) they don't go for drinks on happy hour, also most married (or in a relationship) guys don't do that either, they rather be with their significant others. Also because men don't trust their mates as much as females trust their mates. We (males) are more insecure about letting them hang out with their office mates.
wow this went long sorry about that, I guess I just wanted to share my opinion. But you gotta know that at least in the states, single women sometimes think with their genitals too. More often that you know.
The problem is more that you find someone that is not looking for someone while you are not looking for someone either.
I could write a book with all that I left out, one important thing is to get your mind outside of the high school mind set of always needing some relationship, lucky me (or unlucky) my first marriage didn't last, separated for a couple of years being totally alone and really discovering how I am by myself with not relationships at all. And if you find someone that had time to discover herself without being on a relationship for a while then "bingo". No high school dramas anymore