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The art of (internet) dating - year 2020

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langwadt:

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Yeah, but they very very easily find out if you dont speak dutch. The "Where are you from" is typically in the first five minutes. Ah, Eastern Europe? Nevermind then.

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Learning the local language is a social contact booster. Even if one manages only to engage in clumsy basic conversation, getting around in the community changes.

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You sure about this? I don't think so. I know far too many girls that fell in love with strange strangers of different country origin, that could barely say "hello" in our native language.

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maybe it is something instinctive, back in the day with small isolated societies getting some fresh and unrelated
genes was a good thing

SilverSolder:

--- Quote from: james_s on January 29, 2020, 08:02:39 pm ---I suspect it's different in more homogenous societies. Here we have always had immigrants from all over the world, people are used to being around people who came from other places. I don't think being an immigrant is a significant obstacle to dating in the USA, I mean unless you are an American "Indian" we're all descendants of foreigners here.

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Even the native Americans are foreigners (Siberian natives walking over the ice via Alaska)...

LaserSteve:
It absolutely blows me away that none of you have yet to mention the problem of what her 32,768 female friends think of "You", even though they have often never met you.
One word from them, no matter how illogical, made up, based on a guess, attempt to manipulate her, jealousy etc. "I don't think he's RIGHT for you Dear!", and your done. But  based on what?

I've gotten so I invite her friends on the second or third event. Usually gives me a view of what I may or may not be dealing with.  Certainly has made me wiser. If you have not figured it out yet, your dating THEM, too.  At least in America.  Best shot at marriage I ever had, well, lets just say her mother picked me for her, after talking to Mom a few times at Church. The old adage, "Look at the Mother, would you date her?", has a great deal of truth to it. Mainly  because they start looking at/learning from  how Mommy deals with men around age six or seven.

Humans are complex, very complex. Nearly impossible to detect  Phenomes,  the smell of testosterone/estrogen  Electromagnetic fields, looks,  what your wearing, dreams of what she could change you into.   As for  Electromagnetic fields  recent studies indicate some women may "light up" in the Terahertz region when they see "That" guy.   

 It's outdated, blatantly biased , but still a good bock I wish I had when I was in high school... But it will possibly  help you if you, too,  have Dilbert's "Knack".

"The Female Brain" by Louanne Brizendine, MD... Read some of the references.  Dr. Brizendine specialized in fixing relationships, and psychology of the human female. The book is brutal, part of it is just her opinions, but it really opened my eyes and helped me.

Don't go see the movie of the same title. Horrible fiction.

I freely admit I'm not wired for dealing with "DRAMA", and that is why I'm still single.

BTW, study of 4000 Israeli women, less then 1% were tied in marriage to  male childhood age  schoolmate,  friends,  or neighbors.  Statistics on the number of women who divorce after child rearing and head toward  a childhood mate for round two, would make your head spin, if anyone ever published them. Weird, Huh!  I think they are wired for serial monogamy, not married for life.

 One think LB, MD stresses, is the replacement male  is always picked out ahead of time in case they loose the mate. So they may "block" you socially just to keep you around as a possibility. Makes sense for continuity in feeding the children, but.... the grass may not be greener in round two.


Steve

temperance:
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--- Quote ---"In other words, all other things equal, a man with a master’s degree is about twice as likely to get a match than a man with a bachelor’s degree. Perhaps something to keep in mind, if you are interested in obtaining a graduate degree and are active on Tinder."
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Engineering jobs aren't that popular among woman. The response is usually: you work with computers? I hate computers... Boring. Next...

Perhaps a master degree in economy is a better magnet.

james_s:
Fortunately that is starting to change. The company I work for has more women than anywhere else I've ever worked. They are still the minority, and in the engineering department where I am men outnumber the women by probably 5:1 but that's still quite a change from 20 years ago.

Everyone uses computers of one sort or another now, there is much less stigma to being a nerd. I kind of doubt people who are under about 30 today could even understand how bad it was in the old days, it wasn't until I learned to hide my nerdy interests and develop or fake some interests in more mainstream things like music and sports that girls would give me the time of day.

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