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The art of (internet) dating - year 2020

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SilverSolder:

--- Quote from: james_s on January 30, 2020, 06:29:44 pm ---
--- Quote from: eti on January 30, 2020, 01:43:37 am ---You need to be able to tolerate someone in your presence, 24 hours a day for the rest of your life; you get married because you have space in your life FOR A WIFE, not because you're obsessed with the romantic fantasy world of permanently being in love. If you don't have room in your mind for an "other" to fit in and share life with you, then what are you thinking?

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She and I would both lose our minds if we had to be in each others presence 24 hours a day. I enjoy time spent with my partner but I also cherish time spent alone and the occasional evening hanging out with the guys doing guy stuff like drinking a few beers and wrenching on old cars. I think it's important in any relationship to maintain some personal space and some of one's own identity, separate interests and hobbies are a good thing. Quite a few evenings I'm doing my EE hobby while she's working on her latest quilt. Other nights we'll do something we're both interested in together.

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Might be hard to explain a hobby of looking deep into the eyes of blue eyed blondes?  :)

eti:

--- Quote from: james_s on January 30, 2020, 06:29:44 pm ---
--- Quote from: eti on January 30, 2020, 01:43:37 am ---You need to be able to tolerate someone in your presence, 24 hours a day for the rest of your life; you get married because you have space in your life FOR A WIFE, not because you're obsessed with the romantic fantasy world of permanently being in love. If you don't have room in your mind for an "other" to fit in and share life with you, then what are you thinking?

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She and I would both lose our minds if we had to be in each others presence 24 hours a day. I enjoy time spent with my partner but I also cherish time spent alone and the occasional evening hanging out with the guys doing guy stuff like drinking a few beers and wrenching on old cars. I think it's important in any relationship to maintain some personal space and some of one's own identity, separate interests and hobbies are a good thing. Quite a few evenings I'm doing my EE hobby while she's working on her latest quilt. Other nights we'll do something we're both interested in together.

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You're absolutely right :) I only meant that one should be able to tolerate the other 24hrs a day, not that it would be a healthy regular pattern; yes, breaks are definitely needed.

magic:

--- Quote from: james_s on January 29, 2020, 08:02:39 pm ---I suspect it's different in more homogenous societies. Here we have always had immigrants from all over the world, people are used to being around people who came from other places. I don't think being an immigrant is a significant obstacle to dating in the USA, I mean unless you are an American "Indian" we're all descendants of foreigners here.

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I don't know, TV told me that plenty of European-Americans consider themselves more "American" than American-Americans these days. Unless by "here" you specifically mean large cities.

Dating in big cities is easy enough, grab your copy of The Game and hit the nearest nightclub :P My point was that such environments are less suitable for long term relationships and family than more established societies. I think the situation is pretty much the same all over the world and all over the world statistics speak for themselves :)

SerieZ:

--- Quote from: magic on January 31, 2020, 08:55:31 am ---...grab your copy of The Game and hit the nearest nightclub :P ...

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I read that book over a decade ago and except for the, "be confident in yourself"-stuff, these pick-up types are a bunch of Charlatans of the worst kind IMO  :--

Ed.Kloonk:

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