It absolutely blows me away that none of you have yet to mention the problem of what her 32,768 female friends think of "You", even though they have often never met you.
One word from them, no matter how illogical, made up, based on a guess, attempt to manipulate her, jealousy etc. "I don't think he's RIGHT for you Dear!", and your done. But based on what?
I've gotten so I invite her friends on the second or third event. Usually gives me a view of what I may or may not be dealing with. Certainly has made me wiser. If you have not figured it out yet, your dating THEM, too. At least in America. Best shot at marriage I ever had, well, lets just say her mother picked me for her, after talking to Mom a few times at Church. The old adage, "Look at the Mother, would you date her?", has a great deal of truth to it. Mainly because they start looking at/learning from how Mommy deals with men around age six or seven.
Humans are complex, very complex. Nearly impossible to detect Phenomes, the smell of testosterone/estrogen Electromagnetic fields, looks, what your wearing, dreams of what she could change you into. As for Electromagnetic fields recent studies indicate some women may "light up" in the Terahertz region when they see "That" guy.
It's outdated, blatantly biased , but still a good bock I wish I had when I was in high school... But it will possibly help you if you, too, have Dilbert's "Knack".
"The Female Brain" by Louanne Brizendine, MD... Read some of the references. Dr. Brizendine specialized in fixing relationships, and psychology of the human female. The book is brutal, part of it is just her opinions, but it really opened my eyes and helped me.
Don't go see the movie of the same title. Horrible fiction.
I freely admit I'm not wired for dealing with "DRAMA", and that is why I'm still single.
BTW, study of 4000 Israeli women, less then 1% were tied in marriage to male childhood age schoolmate, friends, or neighbors. Statistics on the number of women who divorce after child rearing and head toward a childhood mate for round two, would make your head spin, if anyone ever published them. Weird, Huh! I think they are wired for serial monogamy, not married for life.
One think LB, MD stresses, is the replacement male is always picked out ahead of time in case they loose the mate. So they may "block" you socially just to keep you around as a possibility. Makes sense for continuity in feeding the children, but.... the grass may not be greener in round two.
Steve