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| peter-h:
Internet dating is the best way by far. Worked for me 16 years ago and we are still blissfully happy. The old ways are like carving luck out of solid rock. "Activities" are mostly hopeless. Outdoor ones have few women and all the men are after them. Sports activities likewise, with a lot of macho behaviour. At work, or work related, very tricky for various reasons, and a high chance of going for someone just because it was the least bad option (this is what most people have done). Few intelligent women are found in bars, and again there is a lot of competition because there will always be a male who will have a go and will be more bold than you are. Women (under say 40) gravitate towards adventurous spontaneous uninhibited assertive (not realising that #5 on that list is "violent") and this works against any "techy" type of male. So you have to do something where you get her attention. Downsides of internet dating are numerous... it is competitive and you get a lot of "serial shoppers". If you get any nonsense, you have a "player", so walk away. Etc :) Don't do Tinder. Mostly used for casual sex, despite widespread pretences, and the barrier to entry (no pun intended) is too low, the temptation to "look" always remains... Over 40, everything changes. Life gets a lot easier. No "elephant in the room" (kids wanted ASAP) and women realise that men who tick that list are basically hopeless partners whose trousers spend way too much time around their ankles (because they can) :) |
| floobydust:
W5 "The Invisible Man" documentary shows organized crime is very active on internet dating sites. It was sad a Canadian gal got scammed out of almost $1M then killed herself or was more likely murdered. We can say they were naive or foolish, but romantic interest does make a person blind. The Black Axe organization from Nigeria is always trolling people in romance scams $100M-300M per year in Canada. Very difficult to bust them because it's between countries and police really get no funding to do much. Criminals have entire shops full of people coaching and working on their scams. It's not just one bad apple. Scammers make fake profiles of gorgeous people, men are ex-military or business owners away from their home city, of course. The scam is to get to know someone on-line, schmooze them, catfish them, then hit them up for money for airfare or to cover a late paycheque etc. Get the gal's personal info, and ask them to wire a little money to an oddball country. Once you have her contact info/ID the blackmail and threats begin. The women I know on-line dating say it's almost a daily occurrence, to get messages from scammers. A give away is the scammer doesn't know the city sights/streets/weather at all, english is odd and they kind of look too hot to be true. Profile pics are stolen from other sites. |
| langwadt:
--- Quote from: floobydust on February 09, 2020, 07:30:37 pm ---W5 "The Invisible Man" documentary shows organized crime is very active on internet dating sites. It was sad a Canadian gal got scammed out of almost $1M then killed herself or was more likely murdered. We can say they were naive or foolish, but romantic interest does make a person blind. The Black Axe organization from Nigeria is always trolling people in romance scams $100M-300M per year in Canada. Very difficult to bust them because it's between countries and police really get no funding to do much. Criminals have entire shops full of people coaching and working on their scams. It's not just one bad apple. Scammers make fake profiles of gorgeous people, men are ex-military or business owners away from their home city, of course. The scam is to get to know someone on-line, schmooze them, catfish them, then hit them up for money for airfare or to cover a late paycheque etc. Get the gal's personal info, and ask them to wire a little money to an oddball country. Once you have her contact info/ID the blackmail and threats begin. The women I know on-line dating say it's almost a daily occurrence, to get messages from scammers. A give away is the scammer doesn't know the city sights/streets/weather at all, english is odd and they kind of look too hot to be true. Profile pics are stolen from other sites. --- End quote --- I would have expected men to be the more likely target of such scams and afaiu there are plenty of dating sites that are near scams, made up of mostly fake profiles and made up messages that requires you to sign up for ever increasing expensive "vip" subscriptions to read |
| Circlotron:
--- Quote from: peter-h on February 09, 2020, 06:54:26 pm ---Women (under say 40) gravitate towards adventurous spontaneous uninhibited assertive (not realising that #5 on that list is "violent") --- End quote --- Possibly the most notable thing I’ve read all week. +10 for insight. :-+ |
| sixtimesseven:
--- Quote from: Circlotron on January 25, 2020, 12:27:26 pm ---I have a policy of never entering into a contractual business arrangement with someone who simply lives with a partner instead of getting married. To me, it indicates their attitude toward sticking with agreements; wanting an easy way out if things don’t go their way. --- End quote --- Interesting. I know a few people who don't wan't marriage because of all the social and religious baggage attached to marriage. Some have children and an extensive net of contracts to basically make their partnership pretty much equal to marriage in legal terms. |
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