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The art of (internet) dating - year 2020

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Zero999:
Just a few thoughts.

My sister met someone using the Internet, married him and now has two children. She definitely does love him, but I wouldn't say she's 100% happily married. He's very lazy and has never had a proper job. He did earn some money doing various things such as web design and running a window cleaning business, which involved organising window cleaning rounds for others, rather than doing it himself. He found it too stressful, so sold the business to his parents, who paid him back in weekly instalments over a five year period.  Now he doesn't even try to do any work and his parents have finished paying him for the business, so they've run out of money. My sister does her best working as a self-employed domestic cleaner, but it isn't enough to pay the rent. She might have had a better job, as a teacher, but he discouraged her from continuing her career as a teaching assistant, shortly after they got married. They and their children will be moving in with his parents in the spring. They have a couple of ideas: buying a camper van and living like gypsies or helping his parents to buy their council house and building a small house for them to live in, in the garden. They don't have the money for either of these. I suspect the gypsies option is more likely, but it won't work in the long term.

Being tall is attractive, yet interestingly it's quite likely bad for ones health overall and results in a shorter life expectancy. Fortunately I'm a little on the short side at 174cm, but not so dinky I feel bad about my height.
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC1071721/

Lastly what's wrong with being single? I have dabbled with Internet dating, but have never met anyone in real life. I also went through a phase of expanding my social circuit in the hope of meeting new people, a few years ago, but have since lost interest in it. I'm generally happy single and don't have any motivation to do any dating.

SilverSolder:

--- Quote from: Zero999 on January 26, 2020, 04:00:54 pm ---Just a few thoughts.

My sister met someone using the Internet, married him and now has two children. She definitely does love him, but I wouldn't say she's 100% happily married. He's very lazy and has never had a proper job. He did earn some money doing various things such as web design and running a window cleaning business, which involved organising window cleaning rounds for others, rather than doing it himself. He found it too stressful, so sold the business to his parents, who paid him back in weekly instalments over a five year period.  Now he doesn't even try to do any work and his parents have finished paying him for the business, so they've run out of money. My sister does her best working as a self-employed domestic cleaner, but it isn't enough to pay the rent. She might have had a better job, as a teacher, but he discouraged her from continuing her career as a teaching assistant, shortly after they got married. They and their children will be moving in with his parents in the spring. They have a couple of ideas: buying a camper van and living like gypsies or helping his parents to buy their council house and building a small house for them to live in, in the garden. They don't have the money for either of these. I suspect the gypsies option is more likely, but it won't work in the long term.

Being tall is attractive, yet interestingly it's quite likely bad for ones health overall and results in a shorter life expectancy. Fortunately I'm a little on the short side at 174cm, but not so dinky I feel bad about my height.
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC1071721/

Lastly what's wrong with being single? I have dabbled with Internet dating, but have never met anyone in real life. I also went through a phase of expanding my social circuit in the hope of meeting new people, a few years ago, but have since lost interest in it. I'm generally happy single and don't have any motivation to do any dating.

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Everyone has different dreams/goals for what they want to achieve, and what they see themselves as happy with. 

Things get really difficult if your dreams far outstrips your talents/capability to ever achieve (or even work towards) achieving them.

Things get even worse if you do have some talent/ability, but choose not to use it for whatever reason (usually, by being too clever by half and always trying to find shortcuts rather than putting in hard effort or even sustained light effort).

We are mammals - the motivation to do dating is baked into the ROM.  I have seen many times (and experienced sometimes!) how otherwise stable people fall hard in love and go through a bout of temporary hormone driven insanity.  It can happen to anyone, anywhere, and usually unexpectedly.

Every woman I have ever had close relations with "happened" outside typical dating environments,  there was never any formal dating...  we just somehow became friends / fell for each other.   The world is full of women looking for company, if only more men could see!  :)   The men that do see, are the ones that seem to get an "unfair share" -  just for noticing them.

jancumps:

--- Quote from: SilverSolder on January 26, 2020, 04:18:57 pm ---....
We are mammals - the motivation to do dating is baked into the ROM.
...

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Much much more than we dare to accept from ourselves, I suspect.

SilverSolder:

--- Quote from: jancumps on January 26, 2020, 04:32:09 pm ---
--- Quote from: SilverSolder on January 26, 2020, 04:18:57 pm ---....
We are mammals - the motivation to do dating is baked into the ROM.
...

--- End quote ---

Much much more than we dare to accept from ourselves, I suspect.

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Procreating the species is fundamental to all life...   

Cultures are different in their acceptance of the facts of mammal life.  Some have a more puritan leaning approach (east coast USA, northern Europe), some openly savour the passions (France, Italy etc.).   Of course individuals in all societies have their own take on things and conform to their cultural norms to a greater or lesser degree, depending...

Alex Eisenhut:

--- Quote from: Circlotron on January 25, 2020, 12:27:26 pm ---I have a policy of never entering into a contractual business arrangement with someone who simply lives with a partner instead of getting married. To me, it indicates their attitude toward sticking with agreements; wanting an easy way out if things don’t go their way.

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Seems like you took an easy way out.

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