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Re: The art of (internet) dating - year 2020
« Reply #50 on: January 27, 2020, 08:20:57 am »
@magic: no we don't
Man, it was a joke. The women I listed are some of the biggest offenders when it comes to climbing the totem pole with their assets and also the first to complain about predictable consequences of such behavior going on on a large scale and to blame it on "patriarchy" :P
Contrary to sentiment expressed by one poster here, it's not possible for everybody to hook up with someone "better". There will inevitably be "suckers", or, heavens forbid, people would need to marry their equals and OMG classism.

That being said, I'm not a progressive liberal or whatever it's called these days :phew: I think women are always gonna women and men are gonna men; better get used to it than try to change it.

The women I know looking for love and dating (after having kids, divorce etc), they complain men only want something casual and that they have a harem.
Something something market value, something something sampling bias >:D
 
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Re: The art of (internet) dating - year 2020
« Reply #51 on: January 27, 2020, 12:00:45 pm »
it`s no problem to be lucky married

... when you never use the sleeping room for parking test gears and tube Tek.

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Re: The art of (internet) dating - year 2020
« Reply #52 on: January 27, 2020, 12:19:42 pm »
it`s no problem to be lucky married

... when you never use the sleeping room for parking test gears and tube Tek.

 :)

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Re: The art of (internet) dating - year 2020
« Reply #53 on: January 27, 2020, 01:14:08 pm »

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Contrary to sentiment expressed by one poster here, it's not possible for everybody to hook up with someone "better". There will inevitably be "suckers", or, heavens forbid, people would need to marry their equals and OMG classism.
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Apparently the statistics show that women often prefer to "marry up", whereas men are generally happy with any woman that loves them.

Keeps men on their toes, I guess!
 

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Re: The art of (internet) dating - year 2020
« Reply #54 on: January 27, 2020, 02:03:04 pm »
And then, if you are educated, tall, have an OK paying job, a house, a car and you are not a complete douchebag they still wont date you. They wont date you cause you are an expat, but they will never openly admit it.
 

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Re: The art of (internet) dating - year 2020
« Reply #55 on: January 27, 2020, 02:54:12 pm »
...They wont date you cause you are an expat, but they will never openly admit it.

I have found love while expatting. Hope that was included in the stats.
 

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Re: The art of (internet) dating - year 2020
« Reply #56 on: January 27, 2020, 03:36:41 pm »
...They wont date you cause you are an expat, but they will never openly admit it.

I have found love while expatting. Hope that was included in the stats.
The sad part is that it matters where you are from.
 

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Re: The art of (internet) dating - year 2020
« Reply #57 on: January 27, 2020, 05:39:22 pm »
And then, if you are educated, tall, have an OK paying job, a house, a car and you are not a complete douchebag they still wont date you. They wont date you cause you are an expat, but they will never openly admit it.

I have never found that to be a problem...   -  those to whom expatness is a problem, you probably wouldn't want to be dating anyway!   :-DD
 

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Re: The art of (internet) dating - year 2020
« Reply #58 on: January 27, 2020, 06:03:10 pm »
A friend of mine used to say "Hey, Luv. Have you got any Pommie in ya? No? Would you like some?"

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Re: The art of (internet) dating - year 2020
« Reply #59 on: January 27, 2020, 07:00:43 pm »
They wont date you cause you are an expat, but they will never openly admit it.
The sad part is that it matters where you are from.
Seems like you are about as honest as those girls.

That's essentially my hate of the 20th century Western society, in a nutshell ;D
I don't know who screwed up and how screwed up, but everything is screwed up.

Besides, and perhaps closer to the original topic, people can blame all shit they get from others on what they get the most shit from others for, so perhaps you aren't even entirely right here.
 

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Re: The art of (internet) dating - year 2020
« Reply #60 on: January 28, 2020, 04:34:36 am »
The best defense against getting your heart broken again is to find some fatal flaw, some reason to reject someone. Especially online or during a first date.
That way you never really find someone, yet can complain "there are no good ___ out there."
It's kind of funny when a gal goes through her checklist, and finds I have passed it. They're basically terrified now, still skeptical I don't live with my mom or something ;D
 

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Re: The art of (internet) dating - year 2020
« Reply #61 on: January 28, 2020, 07:59:43 am »
Seems like you are about as honest as those girls.
If you have something to say about me, say it.
 

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Re: The art of (internet) dating - year 2020
« Reply #62 on: January 28, 2020, 08:17:12 am »
Try the local morgue.

 ;)

Friends with this fellow?



Edit: Fixed link
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Re: The art of (internet) dating - year 2020
« Reply #63 on: January 28, 2020, 08:20:31 am »
Now then now then let’s not go down that route  :-DD
 

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Re: The art of (internet) dating - year 2020
« Reply #64 on: January 28, 2020, 08:49:36 am »
Now then now then let’s not go down that route  :-DD

He had everything a woman could want in a man: Money, fame and good with children.   :o
 
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Re: The art of (internet) dating - year 2020
« Reply #65 on: January 28, 2020, 10:11:19 am »
If you have something to say about me, say it.
You said nothing about yourself so I can only say that you said nothing about yourself ;)
But your posts read like a chick saying she can't accept the brand of tires you use on your car :bullshit:

Women generally don't ask for citizenship status or place of birth as a condition to meeting you. They aren't nearly as pedantic and materialistic :P
 

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Re: The art of (internet) dating - year 2020
« Reply #66 on: January 28, 2020, 10:22:00 am »
If I have to say anything to internet dating these days: It simply does not work.
 

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Re: The art of (internet) dating - year 2020
« Reply #67 on: January 28, 2020, 10:47:37 am »
If you have something to say about me, say it.
You said nothing about yourself so I can only say that you said nothing about yourself ;)
But your posts read like a chick saying she can't accept the brand of tires you use on your car :bullshit:

Women generally don't ask for citizenship status or place of birth as a condition to meeting you. They aren't nearly as pedantic and materialistic :P
Yeah, but they very very easily find out if you dont speak dutch. The "Where are you from" is typically in the first five minutes. Ah, Eastern Europe? Nevermind then.
 

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Re: The art of (internet) dating - year 2020
« Reply #68 on: January 28, 2020, 11:39:21 am »
That's the thing. You don's speak the right dialect, you don't practice the right local customs, perhaps you don't preach to the right god or whatever, maybe you don't look like them too. And guess what, those things make a difference and I'm frankly tired of people pretending they don't. "Diversity" is overrated. You either become indistinguishable from the herd or you come in sufficient numbers to colonize the land on your own terms.
I too could live in Silicon Valley or perhaps somewhere in Western Europe, but meh. Why become part of some grand rearchitecture of the world conceived by a bunch of LSD junkies from Hollywood?
 

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Re: The art of (internet) dating - year 2020
« Reply #69 on: January 28, 2020, 11:59:12 am »
With all the complicated problems in this thread, I'm even more happy that I met my wife in school (7th grade, we were both 15 yo), that's now 38 years ago, and we still love each other like day 1 (and never ever have had a fight over anything)  :)
Miracles still happens  8)
 
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Re: The art of (internet) dating - year 2020
« Reply #70 on: January 28, 2020, 12:05:58 pm »
With all the complicated problems in this thread, I'm even more happy that I met my wife in school (7th grade, we were both 15 yo), that's now 38 years ago, and we still love each other like day 1 (and never ever have had a fight over anything)  :)
Miracles still happens  8)

I hope and wish I could say this in the future too.
 

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Re: The art of (internet) dating - year 2020
« Reply #71 on: January 28, 2020, 12:09:11 pm »
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Yeah, but they very very easily find out if you dont speak dutch. The "Where are you from" is typically in the first five minutes. Ah, Eastern Europe? Nevermind then.

Learning the local language is a social contact booster. Even if one manages only to engage in clumsy basic conversation, getting around in the community changes.
 

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Re: The art of (internet) dating - year 2020
« Reply #72 on: January 28, 2020, 12:11:58 pm »
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Yeah, but they very very easily find out if you dont speak dutch. The "Where are you from" is typically in the first five minutes. Ah, Eastern Europe? Nevermind then.

Learning the local language is a social contact booster. Even if one manages only to engage in clumsy basic conversation, getting around in the community changes.

You sure about this? I don't think so. I know far too many girls that fell in love with strange strangers of different country origin, that could barely say "hello" in our native language.
 

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Re: The art of (internet) dating - year 2020
« Reply #73 on: January 28, 2020, 12:16:45 pm »
What I was trying to say is that speaking the language opens social doors. I didn’t try to imply that not speaking it is blocking one to socialise and meet people.

 

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Re: The art of (internet) dating - year 2020
« Reply #74 on: January 28, 2020, 12:34:50 pm »
I think that being a stranger in "the correct way" is the booster.  The other girl I know just started dating a stranger because he had blue hair and was looking at her in a pub. (or so was I told about it).

But me being stranger myself (in not the correct way), I find females hard to understand.
 


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