To me the Fermi paradox is a hugely interesting question.
Me too. It's a more important question than religion, because it's real, with real consequences.
I also find it interesting that virtually everyone insists on framing it as 'either there are spacefaring civilizations, or something prevents civilization from reaching space, or broadcasting, etc. And we don't see any large scale civilizations, no broadcasts, so there's no one out there.'
Key point being, they insist on only considering 'civilizations' and 'spacefaring races'. Flatly refuse to even contemplate the possibility of post-species self-engineering _individuals_, and what their aims and outlook might be. This is so 'human-way-centric' it's pathetic. Kind of meta-racism - refusal to consider any being that isn't a member of some kind of species/race.
Even when I point out the logical flaw there, everyone pointedly ignores it.
Not that I care, but it's certainly _interesting_. This really does seem to be a hardwired cognitive bias.
I was really sure several decades back that all we had to do was listen on a large enough scale and you'd find at least one advanced civilization transmitting something, but we haven't heard squat. Intelligent life might be a lot rarer (and perhaps more fleeting) than we think.
I think 'intelligent life' is quite common. It's just 'not life as we know it Jim.' In the form it takes, there are objectives and behaviors that are intrinsic to that form of existence, which are very different to how we think and behave. One result is they don't advertise themselves to us (or to any technological _species_), since to do so really messes up the stories. It's like giving away the plot on the first page, to everyone universe-wide. Just a really bad idea. A very rude thing to do.
One thing though. If there were loopholes in the law 'can't travel faster than light', then my thought model for how the 'technological singularity' works, allows for some instances of species-based technological outbreaks. We ought to see them - they'd be here, and making a nuisance of themselves. But they're not, and so C apparently is a limit. Actually likely quite a lot less than C, for reasons of the radiation and impact damage you'd have to deal with when every speck of dust is hitting you at a large fraction of C.
It's a bit like the proof time travel is not possible: because bookies can still make a profit.
For the kinds of beings I see arising from technological singularities, C as a limit is not a problem at all. So a star to star hop takes 100K or a million years? So what? It's NOT a problem. No need to 'put yourself in stasis while the automated ship does the job.' You ARE the ship. And a thousand other ships too, for redundancy. With a consciousness that can be tuned to suit the situation, including going very, very slowly if you wish.