When using these components, is the assumption that the PCB will be wave soldered or that the through-hole tabs will be hand soldered?
Paste-in-hole does the job - and you
definitely want all the tabs and hold-down assistance you can possibly get. Glue, case pressing down from the top, PCB tracks approaching the pads from both sides if possible.
While Micro-USB trumpeted it's lifetime improvement over USB-mini, that was seemingly for the actual contact pins. The connectors themselves are a bloody liability. If actual users are going to use the product (and drop it with USB cables plugged in) then brace for product returns.
Any advice and super-good connectors would be welcome. I really don't mind if they're bigger than standard, with massive mounting lugs - just something with a chance of survival.