Yes, there is point, that I haven't specified exactly what I want. Indeed, I have a specific project in mind, that would need about 30 IO pins and one MGT Rx/Tx. But I wanted to make myself a little comparison of whats available, and what is not, which I think, was done to death and your insight was very helpful, even though you may not think so.
The important result I bring out of the discussion is that: MGTs are a rare periphery on small FPGAs (in terms of ball count) and the minimum required ball count to get at least 3Gb seems to be above 324 balls, which is a lot.
This time I may need just 30 IOs, but next time I may need 100 and I'll be back here again, with the same problem. At the same time I do not want to invent all the SCH + PCB again, hence looking for a compromise, which a 256 ball chip could offer, unfortunately there are really no such options, as you've correctly pointed me at the licensing scheme.
And note I am refusing to use a $70 Artix in fine pitch BGA, as I have already enough bad experience soldering this sh!t at my former work and that wasn't on cheap Chinese PCBs. Yes, I may have done something incorrectly, hence I try to avoid these and use something more tolerant for process error, as I do not have any king of specialized equipment for BGA work, yet. Hence my preference for 1mm pitch and smallest ball count possible, which I am confident I can design a PCB for, without pushing the cheap technology to the limits.
Ruining a $70 Artix hurts, looking for cheaper alternatives makes sense, as I am not confident with my non-existent BGA skills. As I'll get confidence in soldering these bad boys, I may as well opt for a $70 chip, because its price gets dissolved in the rest quite easily, but not if you kill two of these in a row (reading everywhere now and then how the BGA is sensitive to this or that...).
You may (or not) understand, that after learning some basics in vendor's A toolbox I don't want to start over again with vendor B or even D.
And yes, not doing anything is also a valid option here. Clearly, I do not have to budget for this, so scrapping the project may be a good option after all.
I hope this explained at least a bit why I proceeded like I did.
PS: I thought there will be much more options, than those three I've found myself.