Honestly, there are lots of different types of servers. All qualify as "server", but some will meet certain requirements, others don't. And they mostly can't be transfered into another type.
So: How much processing power do you need?
How much memory do you need?
How much disk space do you need? RAID level? Hot plug disks?
How many extension cards do you need?
Budget?
For example, we are running a couple of HP ML350, those are IMHO pretty nice allround servers. We have HDD cages, additional RAID controllers, 10G ethernet and plenty if memory.
Then we have an HP mini server 4bay non RAID, a Mac mini server, a NAS and more stuff.
But without knowing the use case, any recommendation is pointless...
Below are the requirements as I recently stated them after being prodded by a bunch of friendlies.
Since I am several days deeper into the process, I can define my requirements a bit more specifically, but its probably still not enough for the barnaclavia. A few topics I have actually come full circle on, for example the idea of starting with an empty shell.
Revised:
Overall: Generic machine with lots of capacity for work, more specifically...
Lots of processing power - deprecated
Lots of throughput - deprecated
Modern connection ports, etc - 2x 10Gb SFP+, 4x 10gb ethernet, host controller QSFP
Dual procs - XEON series, 18+ cores
Larger form factor to accommodate change - 2U, or considering a tower for PCIe expansion
Intention to work with a SAN - QSFP host controller
Linux - probably Ubuntu
Emphasis on non-proprietary products - deprecated
Emphasis on stability and quality - HPE, Fujitsu, Cisco, IBM, Dell are my ranked order so far
"Snappy" UI experience - unfortunately too complex a concept for some, deprecated
Decommissioned price point (hundreds not thousands) - $1500 ceiling
Fairly complete unit, no empty shells - RECONSIDERING THIS AS A START POINT
Video via terminal services, simple local HDMI port
As I and others have mentioned previously, if you have a
specific requirement, we could help you further and point you in the right direction. A specific requirement could be something like "I want to build a NAS with x-amount of storage, can do de-duplication and has y-speed network interfaces" or "I'm building a hypervisor to run x-number of machines for these particular applications".
You said previously that you aren't looking to flip/re-sell these machines, so what exactly are you doing with them? Are they just for you to play around with with no specific purpose? If so, that's totally fine, I have a bunch of 12 year old Dell PowerEdge servers you can have for free for that purpose. They are by no means modern but would be a good introduction for anyone dipping their toes into enterprise gear and just wanting to learn how they differ from regular PCs.
Also, forget HDMI, it's largely a consumer technology. You'll seldom see these on servers and enterprise equipment. VGA is still the standard, even today. That's not to say you can't add a video card for this specific purpose, but you generally won't find HDMI on-board (in fact, I don't think I've ever seen it in a server outside very specific use cases like controlling video walls and things like that, but even then they typically use SDI or HD-SDI).
I'm also not sure what you mean by "deprecated", do you mean to say these aren't important anymore?
For expand-ability, there are plenty of 2U and 4U server chassis out there that will accept larger PCIe cards. Many of the 2U models will usually have a riser card to mount full-height cards in a horizontal axis so that might be a consideration for you too, just depends on what kind of card(s) you plan on using.
In terms of those brands you mentioned, they are all good, reliable brands. As you've found out with the RAM, each may have their own little quirks.
Your really limiting factor is your budget. You won't get cutting-edge servers. The best bet is to look out for auctions. As companies decommission old equipment, they'll usually ship them off by the pallet load to be sold for peanuts, but in many cases, the hard drives will be removed and disposed of separately, and they don't always bother to remove them from the drive caddies.